I am 26. I have 2 kids. My husband is 43. I have what is now developing into a problem. I want to have some type of sexual activity on a daily basis. If not daily very often. We have two kids and I work funny hours sometimes but I never let it become an excuse. Lately I feel like I have to beg. I really need to control or lessen my libido to save some of this fighting. Any ideas??
i have just read your thread and i can sympathise with you totally. I have recently changed my medication (Anti-depressants) and am convinced they have affected my sex drive. At one time i could take it or leave it but now i am constantly pestering my hubby. He has kept up so far but am worried that if i go on like this for much longer how will he be able to cope??? He laughs at it now but i think long term it could cause problems.
as nice as it is to just "get off" i need the other part that sex brings...intamacy on occasion too.
Last night I told him I was going to try to find a way to decrease my libido. he just asked why I would want to do thet....problem number 1 he has no idea there is a problem. I feel like I have to beg for sex then he acts bothered and then i don't want to ask which in turn leaves me unfulfilled. Its a vicious cycle. I hear men have this problem and just masturbate. its more then that, i want the connection too. I still see no real answer to this.
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Boy, that's a problem I wish I had to deal with. most of the time it's the other way around.
but seriously, it may go beyond just the labido (sp). it could mean that your missing something on a daily basis with him. I would sit down with him and try to figure out why there is a lack of intimacy on a daily basis, it could be a number of reasons from work schedule to having kids running around or even more serious issues. don't just dismiss it as being horney all the time, there could be more to it.
I can not say i agree with the part that something may be missing. our marriage is great. we are very happy in all other ways. normal disagreements and such but overall satisfied with our relationship. i think about sex all the time. everytime he touches me, make me want to be with him right then. my hormones go crazy. I can control it to the point that i am not looking for sex in other places, but with him i think about it all the time and then am upset when he doesn't respond. the once a week or so he lets it fit just doesn't do it for me. it is becoming a problem.