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Old 01-02-2007, 02:42 PM   #46
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Re: Sex after cystocele and rectocele repair

Hello. I am also a registered nurse and am 6 weeks post op from a rectocele repair. I am still unable to sit for extended periods without a donut or walk without feeling pressure in the vaginal area.
I had some complications after the surgery...bled for several weeks and hgb went down to 10.5. The dr found that some sutures at the top part of the internal vaginal repair had separated. I had to have the vagina re packed.
Can you advise what I can expect from here? I was told by my dr that the surgery was not bad and I could probably return to work about 4 weeks post op. I am beginning to wonder if I will ever be able to return to work.

 
Old 01-14-2007, 03:54 AM   #47
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Unhappy post op pain and rectocele repair

I am really worried I am 6 weeks post (huge) rectocele repair. I still have a lot of vaginal pressure and pain and can hardly walk or sit for very long. In some ways the pain is worse now then it was to start with. I did however, have huge swelling and brusing for many weeks b/c I bled into the wound b/c of too many blood thinners. Since then, I have been so careful and have rested for the whole time but am not making much progress. At 3 weeks I bled and then could feel a hard lump at the top of the vagina which made sitting impossible for at least 12 days - my doctor thinks that this might be a hematoma. the op has worked from the functional viewpoint - I can now have a bowel motion without trouble.Having said that, when I need to 'go' the pain disappears - it is as though everything is supported- afterwards the pain returns with more force than ever. Thus was what I experienced prior to surgery.
I had had a rectocele for 20 yrs(I am now a fit 50!) but I ruptured my rear wall at the gym while trying to do squats and kegels at the same time - weird!
I am really scared that I will remain in pain and that there is nothing anyone can do about it.Am I being unrealistic? I have had to say that I can't go into work for the term (I work in a high school) but fortunately I can work from home which will keep me busy mentally.
Can anyone please give me advice or help???????

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Old 01-16-2007, 06:09 PM   #48
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I had a rectocele repair and a TVT on December 28, 2006. After 3 pregnancies of which the longest was only 3 hours and then my last one being 9 lbs 6 oz the rectocele was a grade 3 and I have had it for 18 yrs. Just didn't know what it was until I started having issues with BM's and asked my GP at the last yearly exam. The TVT was to stop the stress incontinence.

I am just 3 weeks post surgery. I actually had very little brusing from either procedure, and minimal pain, but immediately after surgery and started using ice packs like you do after having a baby. I really think that helped keep the bruisng and pain down. I only needed pain medication for 1 week and not on a regular basis.

I too had the hard knots and lots of problems sitting the first week so I just mainly laid around and kept ice on it. Ice is truly my friend!!! I used it non stop that first week.

At one week out I had a scare, I had a BM and I could feel blood running out of the vagina. I went to see the Dr. and he also felt the knots and thought it might be a hemotoma. He did a very "easy" pelvic and actually managed to release some of the pressure.

After that every time I would use the bathroom I would apply gentle pressure on the incession to help keep the blood emptied out of the vagina.

I am now three weeks out and the bleeding has stop, I no longer need to wear a pad!! Yeah.

I have problems with getting tired very easy, but I think a lot of that is from being so inactive for 3 weeks now. I do still have some mild pains every now and then from the TVT but for the most part I am pain free.

I will see the Dr. this week for my 3 wk followup. Not sure when I can resume sexual relations with my husband but I am anxious to try. That will be my first question this week at my appointment.

This may sound vain but I cannot believe how much better I feel about myself now that it looks normal down there again. I never realized how insecure I was about it. I do tryly love my Dr. and what he has done for me.

 
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Old 01-16-2007, 07:41 PM   #49
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Re: Sex after cystocele and rectocele repair

Souns like a great outcome especially in that you only had it done on 28 Dec. I had mine on 6 Dec and am still in a lot of discomfort/pain daily; am finding it hard. Good luck with the rest of your recovery.
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Old 01-16-2007, 07:44 PM   #50
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Re: Sex after cystocele and rectocele repair

Like you, I am 6 weeks post op and still having big problems (see web site further down). My doc says that I may have a hematoma which is causing rectal and vaginal pressure and pain -he says that it still might take 4-8 weeks more to resolve. I had a lot of swelling and deep bruising post op. Hope you are feeling better soon!
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Old 01-18-2007, 05:02 PM   #51
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Re: Sex after cystocele and rectocele repair

Hello everyone. I am so sorry to hear so many of you are having such a hard time. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

Well, I had my 3 week post op today. Everything is going great. I have been cleared to go back to work.

Asked him about when we might be able to return to having sex and he told me not until the stitches were out and sometimes that could take 6 - 12 wks. after surgery. So I will continue to be patient. I am so very afraid of undoing his (Dr.) beautiful work. I will have another post op check up in 3 weeks.

I really think the ice made the difference. I never did have much swelling or much brusing.

I pray you all will be on the road to recover and feeling better very soon.


 
Old 02-08-2007, 12:41 PM   #52
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Sex after rectocele repair

Hello,
I'm new here...was looking for some information on sex after rectocele when I ran across this thread.
My wife and I are both 47 years old. She had posterior wall repair with graft, for a rectocele. We are now 6 months post op and still having problems.
The surgery was the worst she had ever experienced. There were tons of complications. The interior graft and repair seemed to heal normally in the standard twelve weeks. It was mostly the exterior and just inside area where she had the problems.
She could not sit for two months, had sever pain until three months, open un-healed wounds until four months, three additional hospitalizations, one emergency room visit, dozens of doctors visits, three second opinions, thousands in co-pays and prescriptions, infections, wound separations, pain and more pain, etc, etc, etc. She did everything the doctors said and really tried to rest and take it easy. We did anything and everything that was suggested.
We couldn't even think about attempting sex until five months post op. When we did try she was so scared we barely did anything. We experimented a little and did a few exploratory things as the doctors suggested. It is now six months since the surgery and we have actually had complete sex three times. Each time she has had moderate pain, but each time it’s been a little less. We are limited in activity level and position. She has identified the remaining pain as an area just inside on the right and is once again going to see the doctors about this remaining problem.
After going through this six months of hell with her (which isn't over yet), I would strongly recommend that anyone considering this think long and hard about any other options. We had no choice. She was in constant pain from the rectocele for six months before and we were told she was in danger of a rupture. Most of that pain is now gone, but had I known what I know now, I would have sought out second opinions before hand, and perhaps considered paying for a private specialist instead of using our current Kaiser Medical plan.
This is just our experience. We know it's not typical. Even the doctors say this is the worst they’ve seen. I hope this information has been helpful.

 
Old 02-12-2007, 10:57 AM   #53
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Re: Sex after cystocele and rectocele repair

I have never posted on a forum before but did not know where else to turn.I am in my 5th month post surgery(I had a partial hysterectomy,vaginal wall repair,rectal wall repair andbladder repair) and still have discomfort when I am too active...feel alot of pelvic pressure similar to the end of pregnancy and still have some periodic discharge. Is there anyone in this forum that is 5 months plus post surgery. I have so many questions and my doctor just tells me to be patient. Sex has become a little less painful but still infrequent. I have abrasive areas that cause considerable dicomfort for my husband. It feels like the mesh used to support the area is exposed. Has anyone had this? Is it possible to still have stiches 5 months later?

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Old 02-18-2007, 06:31 PM   #54
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Re: Sex after cystocele and rectocele repair

I have not had the surgery you have had but will probably have to eventually. You should not still be in pain. What type of doctors did your surgery? Have you seen another doctor for an opinion? I recommend seeing a urogynecologist. There is a website of urogynecologists where you can punch in your state and see all the urogynes in your state. Please seek another opinion from a well-qualified doctor.

 
Old 02-19-2007, 06:44 AM   #55
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Re: Sex after cystocele and rectocele repair

Thank you for your response. My surgery was done by 2 drs, my gyno and a urologist that was highly recommended. I have an appointment with another urologist for a second opinion. I will look to see if there is a combo specialist in my area. Thanks again.

 
Old 02-19-2007, 09:43 AM   #56
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Sex after rectocele

My wife and I again went to her urogynecology surgical specialists. She saw both the assistant doctor (who we realize now is a much better physician than the surgeon) and her actual surgeon. They tell us that her remaining pain, which occurs during sex, is due to a muscle spasm which has caused one of her interior muscles (about two inches inside on the right) to tense and lock up. They have referred her to physical therapy where a specialist will manipulate this interior area in an attempt to unlock the muscle. They say this procedure has a very high success rate. We’ll see what happens.
On a brighter note…we had some success with sex this weekend. On Friday, my wife had her first orgasm in six months…and without any pain. We had worked up to the use of a vibrator with a clitoral stimulator. She reports that this was one of the strong, internal orgasms like she used to have. This was great news for us as she had been very worried that she was “broken”. On Saturday she wanted to try it again. This time, we were also able to have complete intercourse, and she had multiple orgasms. Afterwards, she reported having the same pain.
Needless to say, she is very happy with this new development. Physical therapy is this week.

 
Old 03-08-2007, 06:31 PM   #57
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Re: Sex after cystocele and rectocele repair

Okay; I just ******d you guys and found this all very interesting.
I am here in the hopes of not having to have "genitalia mutilation" surgery as a result of having a surgeon royally screw up me with a rectocele and enterocele repairs.

Does anyone know of any specialists in N. Florida or S. Carolina or Tennessee that I might visit?

I have permanent vaginal burns from this surgery and cannot have sex at all and have to use Desitin to live and now they want to put steriod shots directly into the vagina for me to live
the mesh is coming through both externally and through the vagina area...

any suggestions?

 
Old 03-09-2007, 05:32 PM   #58
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My wife and I again went to her urogynecology surgical specialists. She saw both the assistant doctor (who we realize now is a much better physician than the surgeon) and her actual surgeon. They tell us that her remaining pain, which occurs during sex, is due to a muscle spasm which has caused one of her interior muscles (about two inches inside on the right) to tense and lock up. They have referred her to physical therapy where a specialist will manipulate this interior area in an attempt to unlock the muscle. They say this procedure has a very high success rate. We’ll see what happens.
On a brighter note…we had some success with sex this weekend. On Friday, my wife had her first orgasm in six months…and without any pain. We had worked up to the use of a vibrator with a clitoral stimulator. She reports that this was one of the strong, internal orgasms like she used to have. This was great news for us as she had been very worried that she was “broken”. On Saturday she wanted to try it again. This time, we were also able to have complete intercourse, and she had multiple orgasms. Afterwards, she reported having the same pain.
Needless to say, she is very happy with this new development. Physical therapy is this week.
Sandiego Joe;
Okay could you expound on how you found this "therapy"
a new doctor I saw this past week spoke of this therapy and he talking of putting steroid injections directly into the vagina AND this therapy to keep me from my having more surgery.
Did you ****** them? Did you call your insurance company?
Because I am definitely "broken" for life as it stands right now and my muscles are more than locked up - I am in literally constant pain from the locked muscles and muscle spasms.

 
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I am so sorry for what you have gone through. Yes, there are physical therapists that literally work on the pelvic area (I had never heard of these until just a few months ago). I have been to two different ones. The first one helped unlock a muscle that I had in my vaginal wall that was in spasm. She did help me some but she mainly wanted me to do Kegel exercises which is not helpful for muscles that are already under too much tension. The PT I am presently seeing is awesome. She is helping to work out my whole pelvic floor. I had a pelvic surgery that threw my whole pelvic region into a guarded mode. Everything locked up down there because my body was trying to protect itself from more pain. If you find a physical therapist in your area make sure they know what trigger points are and how to find them and work them out. She also told me that Kegels are the worst thing to do for muscles that are in spasm and locked up.

I will check back to see if I can help you out any more. Hang in there. If you find a good PT, you can get better. I will say some prayers for you too.
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I am so sorry for what you have gone through. Yes, there are physical therapists that literally work on the pelvic area (I had never heard of these until just a few months ago). I have been to two different ones. The first one helped unlock a muscle that I had in my vaginal wall that was in spasm. She did help me some but she mainly wanted me to do Kegel exercises which is not helpful for muscles that are already under too much tension. The PT I am presently seeing is awesome. She is helping to work out my whole pelvic floor. I had a pelvic surgery that threw my whole pelvic region into a guarded mode. Everything locked up down there because my body was trying to protect itself from more pain. If you find a physical therapist in your area make sure they know what trigger points are and how to find them and work them out. She also told me that Kegels are the worst thing to do for muscles that are in spasm and locked up.

I will check back to see if I can help you out any more. Hang in there. If you find a good PT, you can get better. I will say some prayers for you too.
beachlovr
Okay;
one of the questions I have - how long do these sessions last? I live at least 2 - if not 4 hours from physical therapy - as i live in rural Georgia - after leaving Atlanta about 4 years ago.
Also, does your insurance usually cover it? If not - I cannot afford the help. I will barely be able to afford the gas to get there.
How many sessions did it take?

 
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