can a woman have an orgasm if she's absolutely not turned on? my wife said it can happen. (been asking a bit on some past things. i know, i'm jealous ok?) can it happen? this was back a while ago. too long ago for me to be asking questions but...she had sex with this guy she met in san fran when we went out there together. i went down to LA for a few weeks. back then i was a jerk ( i never cheated on her by the way. i just didn't pay much attention to her.) and deserved what i got. i tried to call her twice from LA and gave up. shows how much i cared. she repaid me by having sex with some tough guy she met off the street. she said she was scared. even though she set the whole thing up. she had an orgasm "in a second" she wrote. i wondered how she could do that if she wasn't turned on in the least so she says. is she lying? he was tough and dominant. she always wanted me to be that way. perhaps she just doesn't want to admit how aroused she was even when she was on the phone inviting him over.
thought i'd just run that by you ladies to see if you knew.
I'm not a lady,
but I wanted to add my 2 cents.
Not taking anything away from you..k
My experince,
if she orgasm that fast??.. sounds to me like the guys very well endowed/very thick??..and knows how to use it/how to softly touch her body ect,,ect,, and he gets a lady very aroused.
if she went that far with him to have intercouse, maybe the heat of passion just took her over....and at first penatration is when it feels the best to them and it was just to much intense pleasure.
not knowing what to expect until she felt him inside her/that was probably a turn on with her also?
I realize that sounds lame, but its true if you get a women very well aroused she wants to be stimulated and with some feeling.
if that happens it don't take long for them to orgams.
yeah, i guess i feel worse now. not your fault. just thinking about her being that turned on with that guy really rips me up. i've always been the shy type. so i guess that accounts for my jealousy. so are you saying she must have been turned on? i wouldn't expect you to answer that since you're not a woman but...its really freakin' creepy to me thinking about it and i shouldn't but damn man ya know? i really gotta stop thinking about this stuff. i'm starting to think i might need some help or some kind of drug. ocd drug or maybe viagra so i can go out and go wild. i probably shouldn't go cheating but i feel like it. well, anyway....
yeah, i guess i feel worse now. not your fault. just thinking about her being that turned on with that guy really rips me up. i've always been the shy type. so i guess that accounts for my jealousy. so are you saying she must have been turned on? i wouldn't expect you to answer that since you're not a woman but...its really freakin' creepy to me thinking about it and i shouldn't but damn man ya know? i really gotta stop thinking about this stuff. i'm starting to think i might need some help or some kind of drug. ocd drug or maybe viagra so i can go out and go wild. i probably shouldn't go cheating but i feel like it. well, anyway....
No, if you're young and healthy, you don't need viagra and you dont' need to go wild. I'd say the main thing that needs to be done is to establish better communication between you and your girlfriend, whom I assume you're still with, yes? I don't understand why, if she didn't want you knowing she was turned on by this guy, why she would tell you she orgasmed "in a second." It could be that she had no emotional connection to this tough guy, but her body responded to him, for whatever reason, which is not really the important thing. You going out and cheating on her will not solve anything, though. what you need to do is figure out how much you care for her and how much you really want this relationship. You say yourself you didn't care, didn't pay attention to her, didn't call her, etc. Do you really love her and want to be with her? If not, don't cheat on her, just break up and move on. If so, have a serious talk about where the relationship is going and where you both want it to be, etc. Believe me, when love and trust, communication and emotional intimacy are there, you won't need width or length or viagra to make the sex good.
that's why i need length and viagra. (both for this girl) because there's no love. you're right. when you are clear and healthy, being young helps but i'm 36. i bet you thought i was 21. i wish. but when there is clarity there is love. where there is love you don't need anything else. this wasn't the first time she repaid my lack of attention. there were five other times before that i didn't mention. i never cheated on her. but apparently i did something horrible. probably lack of sexual excitment towards her (i was never turned on by her at all. i once thought i may be gay, then i realized that wasn't it because i have no attraction to men). and she was trying to convey to me that other guys would gladly have her. like i didn't know that already ya know?! she knew i didn't love her, she knew i wasn't turned on, why did she keep on coming back to me and telling me about these guys? is that because she loves me? or because she hates me? or both? its tiresome trying to crack this one. i seem to know so much about it yet i know nothing about her. there was never any love yet we stayed together. fact is, i've been with her ten years. yes, there was never love. she said there was but she's on some kind of auto pilot and unable to see the truth it seems. it seems i said. i don't really know the truth. why am i still with her? believe me, if i could leave i would so fast it wouldn't be funny. yet, its kind of the same with a lot of things. you're born and soon you hate your father. you either chose you're father they say or god chose him for you. whatever the case you take it. some run away from home. some don't and put up with the misery. and its not all misery. that's the problem. there's a wishful little flame that keeps burning keeping you together. well, that's about to go out. i know what you all will say. don't bother. this is the end of it.
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