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greekgirlUSA · 02-20-2007, 03:13 PM

Hello, I'm twenty one, but I was raised by my father and have never really had the confidence to ask anyone for help or advice. My mother and I don't have a good relationship and it'd be too embarrassing to talk to her, anyway.

So I have a few different questions and I intend to bother anyone who will read this with them. XD

Vaginal aesthetics -
I have olive/golden toned skin, but I don't get much sun. I think my vagina has a little too much melanin in it. The lips, overall, look a little dark, but the edges are almost black (I think) and they have sort of a... ridged look to them. The right side is a little longer than the left, just long enough to 'peek', but it doesn't really bother me. The skin on the edges is fairly thin, but again, doesn't really cause me an issue. Mostly it concerns me that it may be abnormal or something. It doesn't help that my pubic hair is thick and dark. @_@; All the hair on my body seems mismatched - pubic hair and eyebrows are solid black and coarse, hair on arms is light brown and fine, legs is thick and black, hair is brown. XD

Tension/light burn/gas? -
Sometimes, just before I finish masturbating or while I'm trying to, my... I'm not sure what the medical term is. XD Entrance? I can't remember, for the life of me.

When it starts to get really tight, I feel this weird... it's a burning, I guess, and it's more annoying than painful. I'm a virgin (by choice! XD) but my hymen is slightly pierced, and if I slip even the tip of my finger inside, it seems to ease it pretty quickly, so could it just be liquid/gas getting trapped behind the hymen? A pressure issue? Maybe even related to dryness? I can be a little dry sometimes and a little wet other times, so I'm not quite sure.

Someone told me the wetness/dryness issue was likely anxiety, since I have a hard time with that. @_@; Anyway. Sometimes, too, it just feels like there's gas trapped in my vagina. Is that normal? It comes out and everything and I worry that it's gross and weird. Is it?

This is everything I can think of right now... all I can hope is that there isn't anything too strange.

Any assistance besides just 'see a doctor' is appreciated. I haven't seen a gynecologist yet due to being overly shy (and, as noted, anxious) and lacking in funds, but I will if I absolutely have to.

GGU

soyoukan · 02-25-2007, 08:33 AM

would say the aesthetics you mention, sound normal if a little "mediterranean"! everyone is different, sizes, colours, hair colours, etc.

as for the rest, sorry cant say., as i dont know. hope someone can answer it.

wholegrain · 02-25-2007, 12:15 PM

Your first inquiry- your vulva is totally normal, and beautiful (like everyone's!). Vulvas come in lots of different shapes, sizes and colors. Races with brown or olive skin tones tend to have very, very dark skin on the vaginal lips and sometimes large or thin lips. Women with lighter, pink or yellow toned skin usually have pink lips that are thicker. But, no matter what race you are, your vulva is unique to you and perfect for you. I don't know if you have a computer of your own or a situation to where you can do this without it being questionable to anyone else, but if you want to you can research and look up education pictures of other women's vulvas. There are some health websites that have just plain, well-lit, clear pictures, rather than porn. I have done the same thing just to see what mine looks like compared to others. It's amazing how different we all look!

As for your second problem- it doesn't sound alarming to me, but I don't really know much about it. I wouldn't worry about it personally.

tUrRrRa · 02-25-2007, 06:00 PM

I agree that you sound like you look completely normal! The other ladies gave great advice on that.

It's very normal to get air trapped in your vagina during mastubation or sex. It isn't really "gas" but just air gets pushed in and can come out and make a funny sound. Totally normal. I would guess that the burning can be from friction and like you mentioned, possibly not enough lubrication. The skin can just get rubbed a little and burn a little bit. Sounds normal, but if it's really bothering you or feels very abnormal, you may want to get it checked out. I know I have dealt with those feelings before though.

greekgirlUSA · 02-27-2007, 10:22 AM

Thank you all so very much. I almost want to cry for the sake of it. XD I've never been comfortable enough to ask anyone, so these things have been bothering me so badly for so long.

Thank you for your help!