 Need advice
I am 28 years old and my husband and I just celebrated our 1 year anniversary. We found out we were pregnant about a month after we got back from our honeymoon a year ago. I took birthcontrol until we went on our honeymoon and decided to start trying. I thought it would take a couple of years so when I found out a month later I was pregnant, we were exstatic. I had my first doctors appointment in May and everything seemed fine. When we went to our first ultrasound on May 10, they couldn't find a heartbeat. I was 8 weeks pregnant. My husband and I were devastated. We just held each other and cried when we found out. I kept hoping this was a bad dream and I was going to wake up any moment. I had a d/c performed a week later and my doctor told us to wait 3 months before trying again. Those seemed to be the longest 3 months of my life. My hcg levels were dropping really slow. When it was almost time to try, my doctor wanted us to wait another 6 months before trying again because she was worried because it took so long for my levels to drop below 2.9 (which is considered negative) that I might have had a partial molar pregnancy. I had to have my blood drawn every month for 6 months. We were just given the ok to start trying again. I am a very anxious person, so I bought a fertility monitor so I would know when I was ovulating. The problem I am dealing with right now is that when I am at peak fertility, my husband gets so stressed about it, that he is unable to finish (or in other words, provide the needed ingredient to fertilize the egg). I am so desperate to get pregant so I can have back that happiness that I had when I was pregnant before. This was going to be my first baby. My husband has a daughter who is 5 and lives with us. I love her with all my heart. I have been raising her since she was 16 months old. When he is unable to finish, I get very emotional and depressed. I love my husband so much. (we have been together for almost 5 years) Does anyone have any advice on what we should do. I am afraid this will continue to happen everytime I ovulate. Has anyone had a similar situation. Sorry this is so long, just thought hearing a little of my background would help!
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. We are TTC as well, and it can get very stressful at times. Have you thought about not telling your husband when you are fertile and just seducing him? Maybe if he doesn't know it is baby making sex and just thinks of it as sex for enjoyment, he will be able to get over the anxiety and have some *release*. I wish you the best of luck in trying. Oh yeah, did you try posting in the TTC boards? Maybe you will get more responses there...more people trying for the same thing as you....Good Luck!
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