Re: What Makes A 30 Year Old Married Woman Want To Push Sexual Boundries?
Any time you're using sex other than for a healthy need, it can become an addiction. Because if you're using sex to fill a figurative emptiness inside, after a while just regular sex isn't going to be enough and the emptiness will get bigger and bigger and you'll have to seek more and different sexual behavior to satisfy your longing. In my unprofessional opinion, it sounds like this is the beginning of a sex addiction for your wife. Sex addiction often starts with unusual, deviant, or socially stigmatized sexual behavior, like porn, swinging, fetishes, etc. Not that those activities are always bad, but if you are doing it for an unhealthy reason, then things are going to get ugly. Sex addiction, as I'm sure you know, is what leads to rape, infidelity, and the destruction of relationships.
Keep in mind I'm no doctor, but I just wanted to tell you my opinion in case it could help. I think it's good you and your wife are both acknowledging that you feel this behavior is unhealthy- if one or both of you were not okay with it and you hid that fact, it would be so harmful to your relationship. I highly recommend seeing your regular doctor for a referral to a psychiatrist or sex therapist.