I read on here someone saying they have had bad orgasms and good orgsms ( good orgasms being the kind that everyone talks about ). I haven't had many orgasms with men, the most I've ever had are with my current bf through oral sex. But they never were that explosive kind that I hear people talk about. The ones I have feel good but are over in a few seconds. Are these the bad kind? Should I be having better ones? I haven't been having orgasms very long at all though I've been having sex for over 10 years. They never really mattered to me, so it's all kind of new to me. Thanks for your advice.
Mine are only explosive through intercourse. The ones through oral just aren't the same. They're what I call a 'fizzle' (only a few seconds), and I consider those kind 'bad'. I sometimes 'fizzle' during regular sex, too, but not that often. It takes time to have an orgasm through sex. I had never had an orgasm through sex until I met my husband. I can even have multiple ones now. I think I just had to find the right guy who I could trust and actually cared about my pleasure as well as his own. Right now, though, my sex drive is nil, but that's another thread!
Last edited by kittywitty; 03-17-2007 at 10:37 AM.