i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, for awhile now, he's been saying things like i'm not a 'tight' down there as i used to be and he sometimes thinks i'm cheating on him and I'M NOT and never have. i really don't know how i would feel different down there i havent done anything to stretch myself out, but then somedays he says i was really tight. i'm confused why that is? i've never had anyone else say anything, would doing sit ups help? also, sometimes when we do 'it' doggy style or he fingers me, i will get air inside me its embarassing since he already says commemts about how i feel. he sometimes says dont worry about it and other days he questions me.
The main thing that makes a difference to this is your "readiness" for intercourse. He is actually punishing you for being aroused by HIM -silly man. If you seem tight, that is when you are perhaps not as lubricated as you could be. Get him educated on this, he needs it.
Your boyfriend sounds like a major jerk. I wouldn't stand for being disrespected that way and I'd tell him to take a hike. I hope you will reconsider this relationship and whether it's worth it to stay with a guy who says such hurtful and mean things to you. You know there are guys out there who won't make you feel like crap and who won't make you feel like there's something wrong with you. Because there is nothing wrong with you, you're totally normal. It's your boyfriend who has the problem. His penis probably shrank and now he's blaming you for it! What a jerk!
In fact, the next time he accuses you of cheating, I would say something like, No, you know darn well I'm not cheating but geez I wish you'd do something about the incredibly shrinking penis! See what he says after that, the big jerk!!
Those replies are great! I would also NOT listen to him acting up that way. He shouldn't be making those kind of comments, that is very rude. He should know that girls can be sensitive about themselves. I also agree about the shrinking penis comment. I doubt I could actually SAY it, but I would maybe comment that he feels a bit smaller inside you if he says anything rude first. As for the air getting inside of you, totally normal and if he ever makes comments about that, it's just silly of him! Kegel exercises (you can look them up online) can help tighten you up, but I doubt you really need it! The only real way you would get very stretched out is from having a child or something.