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Old 06-13-2007, 06:19 PM   #1
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feel guilty on buying my first vibrator

i do feel dirty and sort of embarassed on buying a vibrator but i am thinking of getting my first one online would never go to a sex shop

i am single but im not desperate or anything

its just lately i,ve heard alot of women have them and even women who have a partner which i,d assume the man would be 10x embarassed but read loads that there not and happy to please and all that stuff

but if i buy one i feel im admitting im kinda desperate

i change my mind so often but still not got the guts to get one and even thinking about buying one and opening the package and to think of doing things with it is quite an awful and guilty feeling when really i should find a man
i dont know im real confused and cant talk to anyone about this its too embarassing

and what if the package broke lol the postman would be thinking alsorts,
or if i were,nt in and gave it to a neighbour and she opened it by mistake i,d never live it down all sorts are going through my mind

does anyone have any advice ?

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Old 06-14-2007, 05:58 AM   #2
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Re: feel guilty on buying my first vibrator

I agree that you're making too big of a deal out of it. Although many women don't talk about it, a lot of women have a vibrator and they use it often. If it's your first time buying one then it's understandable that you're a little nervous, but the fact is that it's really not that big of a deal. If you go to a store to buy one, then you really have nothing to be ashamed of because you're around adults who are mature about sex and don't go walking around picking on people for whatever reason. Believe me, there are more weird things out there than a vibrator that are probably way more looked down upon.

And it does not make you desperate. You really need to change your thinking about it, because it has nothing to do with desperation. What you decide to do within the privacy of your home has nothing to do with anyone else. Anyone who would say you were desperate just because you bought a vibrator is just jealous that you have something you can use to make yourself feel good and they don't. End of story.

 
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Old 06-14-2007, 09:58 AM   #3
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Re: feel guilty on buying my first vibrator

I agree with the above poster.

I'm glad you've opened your mind enough to consider buying one, but now you need to let go of the misconceptions! I think you'd be surprised by how many women own sex toys.

It certainly doesn't make you desperate!! If that were true, then everyone using their hands are desperate too, and that would mean a WHOLE lot of desperate people are wondering around the world!!

And some guys really enjoy using a vibrator on a woman. So its not that only "single, desperate" women have them.. they can certainly be used with a partner.

If you decide to buy one it doesn't mean you have to use it daily, or at all even. You don't have to shout it from the roof tops, and the postman will never know! Even the place you order one from.. you're just another faceless consumer to them! Only you need to know about what you do behind closed doors.

Stop thinking so much about it..place the order and enjoy!!

 
Old 06-14-2007, 01:18 PM   #4
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Re: feel guilty on buying my first vibrator

I've bought 2 vibrators in my entire life and there's nothing to feel guilty about, but I can understand why you would!

The first time I bought a vibrator I went to a local sex shop. My friend was with me. We didn't even want to get out of the car because we didn't want anyone to see us go in! Once we finally did it wasn't horrible. We kept giggling like little school girls and looking at all of the products. We each got one and just pretended to have a conversation about a bachelorette party and the bride (who we were giving them too supposedly) so no one would look at us weird. But they didn't anyway.

If you want to buy one off the internet to save the embarrassment then that's up to you, but there's nothing wrong with having them. Mine sat in my nightstand for a month before I actually used it. Now I use it more than I have sex!

My man loves that I have one and we frequently use it during foreplay.

There's nothing to be ashamed about! Go for it!

 
Old 06-14-2007, 07:28 PM   #5
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Re: feel guilty on buying my first vibrator

I agree with all of the above people. Its not something that needs to be discussed with anyone. I think many peoples' sexual life is a very private life and theres no reason for anyone to ask any questions. The packaging wont break before it gets to you, and the postman doesnt wonder whats in the boxes, he/she just cares about where its going so they can get on with their life! I bought one online because I didnt want to go into a store. Actually I bought one for my friend because I thought she would like it and I knew she would never buy one herself, and she brags about it to people! It was like the best thing I ever bought here. Its something that you dont necessarily have to get off on. I know a handful of people (very close friends of mine) who just use it when theyre bored or kinda horny. You can incorporate it into sex too! Just keep it hidden and it will be your little secret.

 
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Re: feel guilty on buying my first vibrator

[QUOTE=vicky20012;3043093] i,d assume the man would be 10x embarassed but read loads that there not and happy to please and all that stuff

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My hubby came home from a trip out of town and had purchased me a vibrator. Had no clue he was going to but have enjoyed it ever since. He does enjoy me using it during sex as much as I do.

I agree with everyone else, go for it, you won't regret it.

 
Old 06-16-2007, 02:26 PM   #7
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Re: feel guilty on buying my first vibrator

believe me and all the others it is not big deal owning one or many more. in fact I had about 500.00 wrapped up in toys etc. and you will find out differant vibrator do differant for you. just look at it as exploring what really turns you on and what gives you the most excitement. it all comes down to exploring yourself. don't feel ashamed to explore your own body. if you are really embarrised to go to the adult store to buy one you could order mags to purchase toys or go on line that way you don't have to worry about the embarrisement. I am a very shy person but this is one thing I am not ashamed of or embarrised to talk about. oh another thing too it does not mean you are desperate if you own one. I just buy differant toys just to be curious what it will do for me. I have thrown quite a few of them away because I didn't like the feel of it for example the kind of too hard and veiny dildos I will never own one again it too hard and doesn't feel very good. and some leave an awfull smell afterward. you will find out for yourself when you explore yourself. I myself is one of the ladies who keeps the energizer batteries in bussiness yes my soon to be husband likes to use them on me too and watch. Good luck.

 
Old 06-16-2007, 07:19 PM   #8
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Re: feel guilty on buying my first vibrator

You should not be ashamed. Honestly, I think most men would find it sexy that you used a vibrator. It means you are a sexual creature who thinks about sex. Once you start using one, you will wonder why you waited so long to buy it in the first place - they are GRREAT!

Enjoy!

 
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Re: feel guilty on buying my first vibrator

It's nothing to worry about! I would suggest buying one online from a popular website that you can trust. Most places will ship them in a discrete box without batteries loaded in, so nothing will look funny. Just read their shipping policy so you know for sure. Many people buy things like that or those websites wouldn't exist! I could never buy one in person either though! I'd just be too embarrassed. Just use the website and it's nothing to feel guilty about. I'm sure there are people you know that use them and you just don't even know it! Just one of those private things!

 
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Re: feel guilty on buying my first vibrator

We're all desperate Vicky. It is the fate of mankind to despair. Yet in this age of unnecessary suffering, grief, and pain, desperation is the least of our worries. And being desperate enough to pleasure yourself is no sin. Especially with a world full of guys who are one step above pond scum.
Liberate yourself from the misconception that masturbation is unhealthy. Just don't give your vibrator a name. That is too weird.

 
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