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Old 11-23-2007, 05:53 PM   #1
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after sex swollen and a graze... plz help

I have started sleeping with my new bf and every time we have sex afterwards and for the next few days it hurts to pee.. i have got a mirror and looked down there and there is a red graze right above my pee hole in the same spot each time.. i have been to the doc to get it swabbed to check for herpes but it was clear. Sex is sometimes a little rough but even when i am on top and doing it gently i still get this graze after wards.. it heals after about 3 days.. I know it must be caused by the rubbing, sex would probably last about 30-40mins for us.. could that be why?? today my whole vaginal area is a little swollen too... but i have never had this problem with any other guy ive had sex with and I do it the same way i have always done it... could it be something to do with him?? anyone help cos i am too embarassed to say anything to him, i dont want him to think its his fault.. there must be something i can do to stop this happening... could lubricant help?

 
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Old 11-23-2007, 06:12 PM   #2
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Re: after sex swollen and a graze... plz help

Yes, lubricant might help. And, I hate to say it, but you should talk to him about it. Are you being to vigorous?

Oh, is he shaved? Stubble hurts. Are you using a different condom brand?

You should probably avoid sex until you heal from last time.

 
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Old 11-23-2007, 09:28 PM   #3
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Re: after sex swollen and a graze... plz help

I agree with the last post. I would try a lubricant and take it easy with the rougher sex for a while. Also, maybe don't have intercourse for such long periods. Keep is less than 20 minutes and try alternate methods of reaching orgasm, such as toys, fellatio/cunnilingus, and the like. I would also bring up the situation to your boyfriend. It shouldn't be an embarassing thing. If you are comfortable enough having sex with him, you should be comfortable enough to discuss a sexual health concern. Best of luck!

 
Old 11-24-2007, 12:07 PM   #4
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Re: after sex swollen and a graze... plz help

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I have started sleeping with my new bf and every time we have sex afterwards and for the next few days it hurts to pee.. i have got a mirror and looked down there and there is a red graze right above my pee hole in the same spot each time.. i have been to the doc to get it swabbed to check for herpes but it was clear. Sex is sometimes a little rough but even when i am on top and doing it gently i still get this graze after wards.. it heals after about 3 days.. I know it must be caused by the rubbing, sex would probably last about 30-40mins for us.. could that be why?? today my whole vaginal area is a little swollen too... but i have never had this problem with any other guy ive had sex with and I do it the same way i have always done it... could it be something to do with him?? anyone help cos i am too embarassed to say anything to him, i dont want him to think its his fault.. there must be something i can do to stop this happening... could lubricant help?
hi,
I'd say that red spot you see is where his penis has been hitting it rubbin it, for 30/45 minutes thats to long for intercourse, why not enjoy about 20 minutes.
before penetration you guys use more foreplay and the both of you are very aroused and excited, usally marthon intercourse only leads to trouble and usally for the female.
a lube may or may not help in this case!

 
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Re: after sex swollen and a graze... plz help

I agree... give some lube a try! Put some around this area you are hurting so there won't be as much friction there. That is a good point about the shaving... if you or he shaves, it can cause the skin to be more sensitive, and when it grows back, stubble can definitely hurt. Give sex a try for a little less time and a little gentler and see if it makes any difference. Try to avoid positions that rub on this area more than others and see if that makes a difference too. Maybe you can figure out what works for you and what doesn't. Not everything works for every person! Good luck!

 
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