Hiya all, Happy New Year to everyone.
Im a 20 year old female and me and my boyfriend have tried to have sex several times but we never go all the way because i find it far to painful.
I think that a lubricant may help us for the first couple of times until i get used to it but i;m a bit apprehensive about saying to him can we use some lubricant incase he thinks he is doing something wrong.
Any Advice much appreciated.
tell him to spend more time in foreplay...I've had similar problem with a girlfriend a few years ago...after a few pushes, I felt like I was just chafing her...so, yeah, more time teasing helps...
There is absolutely nothing wrong with using a lubricant. It's just a tool, to help you enjoy one another without injury. Go to the drugstore, buy it, and put in on him on top of the condom. You might find that with more practice, you don't need it.
For me, before sex there is always foreplay, but I dont have a problem getting wet in the first place. Its just that after awhile I feel as if I begin to dry up and it hurts.
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It took a couple of tries for me too, but with enough foreplay (and him being very patient and gentle), it was ok. I've never used lubricant, but if you continue to have this problem, it may help. Also, I won't say it wasn't painful for me either - it was, quite a bit - but with more practice it gets better. Good luck!
Sex is a painful thing for me, lubricant is the best solution i've found. It's a great tool for having fun with, if you're shy about it you can get ones that double as massage oil. The first time can be painful for a lot of people, lubricant may help, you may find you don't need it after a while, you may find you like it anyway. Just go slowly and gently, concentrate on relaxing yourself down there and take your time.
sex can really be painful if you rush things. take time for foreplay. you know what I use to make it more fun? I use Intimate Options Lubricant Mousse by Replens. It is fun to use because it is not like the traditional lubricant that we know. You may find that your guy likes it too, hehe. tell me if you've tried it!
