kayla2585

For a little background I'm 23 years old and have been married for about seven months. I just had a little boy and he's three weeks old now (no sex for six weeks!). My husband thinks I've lost interest in him due to lack of sex drive.

We've been together for about three and a half years and in the begining, as in most relationships, the sex was great and it was often. When I sat down and really thought about where it all changed, I think I figured it out. My sex drive took a serious hit in 2006. I was pregnant, and six months into the pregnancy the doctors told us the baby was not going to survive. The day the doctor told us I spent mostly in tears, when nighttime came around my husband (we weren't married yet) pressured me into having sex and was very persistent about it. I was confused, devastated and disgusted he wanted to have sex after just finding out the baby was going to die but I was emotionally exhausted and had sex with him.

Ever since then I had been slipping into depression. I was devastated over the loss of the baby. We had been looking at houses because wanted a better neighborhood to raise the baby in and I ended up buying the first one I looked at after finding out the baby would die because it didn't seem to matter anymore. It was more than I could afford and we're currently close to foreclosure. I couldn't seem to find the motivation to lose the weight I'd gained from the pregnancy. All these things made me not really want sex and it seemed more like a chore.

Now we have a bundle of joy in our lives, and I'm so happy about the baby being here. But my husband has very limited participation thus far. He works all day, which I applaud him for but mostly he comes home and goes immediately to bed. We hardly see eachother. I'm at home with the baby 24-7 until I get work clearance. I've had to do all the housework and tend to the baby at all times since we came home from the hospital, he never helps.

So NOW...I'm only getting two or three hours of sleep per night because I'm up with the baby, I spend my days balancing the baby and all the housework (my husband makes a complete disaster of the house when he comes home every day and never picks up after himself). Now on week three, I can't personally do anything sexual for another three weeks. My husband has started asking for head, but the way he puts it he acts like I owe it to him. He's always been a fan of the phrase "If you don't do your homework, someone else will" (the intention I get, the phrase itself I have no idea).

He got this way during my periods as well. After a couple days of no sex he acts like he's never had it before and I should stop being selfish, just because I can't have sex doesn't mean he can't be happy. I hate giving head in the first place, it seems to take too long, I get bored and frustrated and it's awkward him watching me the whole time.

Sorry this is so long but I wanted people to understand the whole situation. My husband waited three weeks (which is impressive for him) but now feels it's time for me to start giving him head until we can have sex again. After getting two hours of sleep, spending the day picking up after him and doing all the chores, I'm just not in the mood to make sure he's satisfied sexually. How do I talk to him about this? When I seemed reluctant about it he got angry and suggested I was obligated and he'd waited long enough.