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Old 01-09-2002, 06:42 PM   #1
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boyfriend wants blowjob every time

we have sex. I get tired of doing this. any suggestions?

 
Old 01-09-2002, 06:55 PM   #2
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Re: boyfriend wants blowjob every time

So do it for him.....

 
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Old 01-09-2002, 08:50 PM   #3
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Re: boyfriend wants blowjob every time

Uh, I have to disagree with JustinF on this one. You should never have to do anything that you don't want to do. It's good to give and take and do it for him sometimes (maybe even a little more often than you necessarily prefer), but you shouldn't ever feel forced or obligated when it comes to sex in a relationship. Have you told him how you feel? I would hope that he would be understanding. If not, perhaps he is being a little selfish??

 
Old 01-09-2002, 09:26 PM   #4
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As long as your carpet is being munched on also - all is fair in love & war.

 
Old 01-09-2002, 09:33 PM   #5
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she never said her carpet was being munched fnlost. At any rate, if you are doing it in excess or just don't enjoy it for whatever reason, then let your man know how you feel. Sex isn't supposed to feel like a chore or something to dread. not everyone enjoys giving oral and if you are one of them, so be it. but don't keep him in the dark about it or you won't be able to enjoy your love making. ask him why he wants the oral so much. good-luck.

 
Old 01-09-2002, 10:37 PM   #6
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What do you mean ask him why he wants oral so much? Guys like it, and they need chicks to do it for them. Obviously this guy really likes it, and if you don't do it for him he will most likely find someone who will.

She shouldn't "have" to do it, no. But she has to accept the fact that he wants it done, she is his girlfriend, and really it is an obligation.

Maybe he will be cool with it, but by the sounds of it he wants it and if you won't provide it...he'll find someone who will.

 
Old 01-10-2002, 07:38 AM   #7
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YOU NEVER DO ANYTHING YOU DON'T WANT TO SEXUALLY. Justin needs to get a life because if he had one he wouldn't be on here telling women it's ok for a man to "force" a women to do something she really doesn't want to do all the time. If the boyfriend were to leave her just because she wouldn't have oral sex with him everytime then it sure wouldn't be much of a loss since being a couple is a two wait street. There is give and take on both sides. If you are having sex then you should be open enough to tell you boyfriend that while you don't mind oral sex once in a while you do enjoy having to give oral sex everytime you are intimate. Communication is the key. Your boyfriend can never know how you feel about things if you don't talk to him.

 
Old 01-10-2002, 07:50 AM   #8
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i agree with you mlgable. do not listen to justin, being a male he is obviously going to have a different view on it, and not very respectful towards women either. it is not her "obligation" to do anything sexually. she does not owe it to him or anyone. but she should be open and honest. but having a boyfriend or girlfriend does not mean you have to give oral. and if he does go out and get it elswhere then she is probably better off not putting his thing in her mouth.
you do what feels right for you.

 
Old 01-10-2002, 04:26 PM   #9
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Damn women.... <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">

I never said she should be FORCED to do it. Just that it is something that really just needs to be done for a good relationship - if the guy likes it.

Would you stay with a guy that wouldn't kiss you or have regular sex with you? I mean, he doesn't like it so you should understand right? What about a guy that wouldn't help you out financially at all? He doesn't like it, do he shouldn't have to do it right?

She shouldn't be forced to do anything, but it is an obligation in a serious relationship - just like it is for a guy to sexually please his woman.

No disrespect intended, if I came off that way then I apoligize.

 
Old 01-10-2002, 04:44 PM   #10
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a good relationship is not based on how good you are in the sack. if there is love there then it shouldn't matter if he is getting off through sex or oral. there is more to life than sex ya know. i don't mind doing now and then. not every day or every other day. and if it's something i feel he is making me do every day then where is the enjoyment? it would become a chore. would you like your woman to demand oral at the drop of a hat all the time?
whether the relationship is serious or not, sex isn't a chore nor is giving oral something she should have to do. if he respects her he will deal with getting sex and oral but maybe not all the time.

 
Old 01-10-2002, 08:41 PM   #11
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"it is something that really just needs to be done for a good relationship"????
Justin, if that's what you think makes a good relationship, then I am sorry to inform you that you are going to die a very lonely person.

Paulina2, if your boyfriend say's that if you won't do it he will find it elswhere, then he is less of a man then Justin is. LET HIM GO, FAST!!!!

 
Old 01-13-2002, 09:43 PM   #12
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you all are funny. Thanks for your thoughts. well, I have told him how I feel about it....many times. he just says I should want to do it for him. he does the same for me but I don't enjoy oral so much. by the way, I just called off our engagement. he was my fiancee. but he was jealous and bossy. I got tired of it.

 
Old 01-14-2002, 03:33 PM   #13
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Told ya <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/wink.gif">

That was a pretty selfish thing to do, but better to do it than be in an unhappy relationship.

 
Old 01-16-2002, 02:23 PM   #14
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i am a hottie just so you know. and i agree that sackage is important but not the deciding factor of a relationship. i won't be lonely because i give my hubby oral all the time and he the same and i am very confident of my sexual abilities, i know how to please and i do it well. so there.

 
Old 01-16-2002, 09:35 PM   #15
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It wasn't selfish of me to break off our relationship. He is a verbal and emotional abuser. That's what I found out about him. and maybe that is part of the reason I didn't want to give him oral so much....because he wouldn't take no for an answer. very bossy and also very jealous of me. He wanted me to be careful in how I dressed (to cover up everything) and got mad when other guys looked at me. My fidelity was questioned constantly and he couldn't seem to ever get enough attention from me. complaining I didn't love him as much as he loved me.
I am a hottie by the way too. So I know that this thing about if she doesn't look good, then he expects more from her isn't true with him. He is just a nympho. I think I was too in the first part of our relationship....but slowly my identity and confidence was being taken away by what he said to me and how he treated me sometimes. I'm so very thankful I recognized this behavior and didn't marry him.

 
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