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Old 10-17-2011, 11:59 AM   #1
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Can We Talk About Sex?

Honestly, ladies....isn't there anything I can take to combat libido issues from meds? Is there anything herbal? What would happen if a female took Viagra? My husband took a viagra one night and it got stuck in his throat. He had a stiff neck for hours....giggle

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Re: Can We Talk About Sex?

I wish I knew something you could take!! I dont have a problem wanting it, its just the pain after, the body aches get worse of course after any exercise, lol!!
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Re: Can We Talk About Sex?

I'm a guy so I don't have any answers for you, but am dealing with low testosterone from all the meds. Replacement therapy does work somewhat. Have you had your estrogen levels checked? Just a though as I had no ideal how much hormones could effect libido.

As a guy, I too have severe pain and fatige the day after and the next day when I complain about being in pain and tired, my wife says, "It's becuase we had sex last night, it always happens".

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Re: Can We Talk About Sex?

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What would happen if a female took Viagra?
Viagra does not increase desire or libido. It is not an aphrodisiac. For a man, viagra helps to get the blood flowing by dilating the blood vessels. That's all it does. Viagra dilates blood vessels. For some women this will increase sensitivity in the genital area and may make orgasms easier. For most women, viagra won't do anything.

 
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Re: Can We Talk About Sex?

see if your hubby will learn the ways of kama sutra with you. sex is sex and it's over fast, giggle, but the touching and connecting of the kama sutra is an experience in love and going slow. giggle. libido can be helped with taking more time to just touch the whole of each other. i'm not talking weird positions, the k.s. we americans know. i am talking about the spirit body connection of pure love.
yea, we can always talk about sex!
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Re: Can We Talk About Sex?

I agree with blue. You can do some things that don't require the typical physical workout and those things create endorphins that leave you wanting more. Also, doing those things produce hormones that will help increase libido. I take a med that decreases libido, but just do what bluelake said and your body will respond a little.

 
Old 10-19-2011, 03:06 PM   #7
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Chris and Mindy: I feel the same way, very tired and sore the next day and I have no trouble wanting it, just committing to the adventure. I feel better knowing that even men with fm have complications. I also have trouble staying in the mood, call me add but does anyone else have a short sexual attention span?

Blue, you point out an aspect I never really thought about, Kama Sutra....eh? I will definitely look into that....giggle Thanks. I know my hubby will be supportive....giggle about whatever adventure I wish to explore.

Anyone else have vaginismus issues or remedies? I have trouble actually relaxing my pelvic muscles. I have had a hysterectomy and sex is much more comfortable and enjoyable but I still have trouble relaxing, maybe Blues KS idea may help with this.

Thanks for your help,
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Re: Can We Talk About Sex?

hi jada,
pelvic relaxation is a problem i have and i am celibate. my massage team does the kama sutra with me. zen sits up and i lie down, face up, with my legs around his hips and my fanny in his lap. he massages my pelvic region, legs, tummy, hips. very relaxing. the kama sutra is about love and light manifesting in touch, breath, and eye contact. it's about connecting with the one you are with and the universe.
i have ptsd issues about being touched by men. this practice has helped my body to heal from the abuse and relax naked in the company of a man. for me that's a big deal. of course his wife is right there in the room and that makes me feel extra safe. giggle.
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Blue, I am very sorry you had to go through what you did. You are a very strong person for taking such affirmitive action towards your PSTD. The Kama Sutra sounds very relaxing and helpful. I am in the process of researching it. I thank you very much for sharing. I may understand in some regards, My PSTD stems from a few sexual abuse situations with men as well and I am always looking for ways to make my experience affect my life less and learn ways to feel positive in hard situations. I have just started one on one therapy with a lovely young lady and I feel a lot of anxiety but I feel safe.
My husband is very understanding but has a much higher sex drive than myself. I want to be flirtatious during the day and talk about sex to my partner but this revs him up for a happy ending. How do I get him to understand between the pain and the anxiety, actual intercourse is difficult? I am going to get a book on KS this weekend. He didn't seem as interested in the KS as I thought he would be. He is very stressed because his mother is very ill with leukemia (terminal) and he is the only caregiver aside myself. We are also looking into bankrupsy. Blah!!

Blue? How much pressure does Zen use when massaging your pelvic area? Are you naked during sessions? Can you tell me more about that? How long have you been celabit for? Since the event? Are you in a relationship? I am sorry for all the curiousity. Of course you don't have to answer. I wanted to be celebit when I was younger, now I am having boundary establishing issues.

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