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Old 11-10-2011, 02:22 AM   #1
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Hi All.. I'm new to this post ..

I've been in a wheelchair for years.. after having had spinal ops due to massive calcification growing in my spine..

It was very intensive operations over a long time, and I eventually lost my husband to divorce.. I was heartbroken but picked myself up and continued on my own..

I just met a lovely man 8 months ago.. We hug, kiss and cuddle as we both like each other's company.... but I hesitate at the thought of sex .. cos " I can't Do It " anymore, physically .

I cannot lie flat on my back after the ops, it's almost impossible..
so I find lying on my side the only way to give him a cuddle..

I cannot lie on top of him either.. ( all the old ways from the past don't work)

I love lots of cuddles, hugging, kissing, and closeness
and I'm able to satisfy him thru masturbation,..

He always seems to worry about me not having an orgasm,
but I explain I am happy to give him satisfaction.. I like doing it..

I've explained all that's happened to me and he seemed to understand.

We both have a problem..
me and my back /Spine and him with his Diabetes..
yet we are both really happy together other wise.. ..

Do you think there's anything I / We can do to improve what we've got or should I /We keep the status quo as it is..??

I feel really happy with him and he seems to want it all to continue as it is..

I would like some input if anyone can give me/ us any Ideas? ??

Thank you ..
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Old 11-10-2011, 12:38 PM   #2
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Re: Do you think there's a Problem ??

Have you two actually tried vaginal penetration while laying your side(s)? Are there other positions you could possibly use with the help of pillows and such? Can he reach around you while laying on your side and stimulate you clitorally with a vibrator or his fingers?

ADDED: I don't think it's a "problem". It's just a matter of trying to find out what will work for the both of you :-)

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Old 11-10-2011, 02:05 PM   #3
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Thank you JumperOK

I will suggest some of the things you mentioned when we're having some time on our own,..

I live in a flat and there are always people around,

( not exactly condusive to lovemaking !! )

so it will have to wait till I'm staying at his place.. We'll have fun trying !

They're all things I used to do with my ex. after my ops but with not having a man for a long time I'd forgotten..

I'll let you know if it works out.!
Thank you !! x

 
Old 11-14-2011, 08:03 AM   #4
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Re: Do you think there's a Problem ??

Also, do some research and see if there are websites out there that cater to your situation. I'm fairly certain there are others out there such as yourself who are always looking for a fulfulling sex life despite any handicap's one may have.

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Old 11-14-2011, 02:36 PM   #5
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Thanks JumperOK

I shared the messages with him on here when he came to stay Fri. night,

and he seemed pleased with what I'd said.. and the replies..

I will look up some Medical Sites later..
(tho you have to be careful as there's some " not-so- clean " sites
at times ..


The only trouble of Anything is

I haven't got enough time in the day to get thru all the Great Messages on here....

It goes on and on and on...then it's Bedtime at 3 in the morning !!!

Cheers

 
Old 11-14-2011, 02:54 PM   #6
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Re: Do you think there's a Problem ??

Hey! I don't think it's a problem at all, you both seem very happy. The extra intimacy would be nice for you both but I think what you have now is incredibly special and adorable. I think you're a great couple and I wish you the best.

 
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