I'm new to this post ..
I've been in a wheelchair for years.. after having had spinal ops due to massive calcification growing in my spine..
It was very intensive operations over a long time, and I eventually lost my husband to divorce.. I was heartbroken but picked myself up and continued on my own..
I just met a lovely man 8 months ago.. We hug, kiss and cuddle as we both like each other's company.... but I hesitate at the thought of sex .. cos " I can't Do It " anymore, physically .
I cannot lie flat on my back after the ops, it's almost impossible..
so I find lying on my side the only way to give him a cuddle..
I cannot lie on top of him either.. ( all the old ways from the past don't work)
I love lots of cuddles, hugging, kissing, and closeness
and I'm able to satisfy him thru masturbation,..
He always seems to worry about me not having an orgasm,
but I explain I am happy to give him satisfaction.. I like doing it..
I've explained all that's happened to me and he seemed to understand.
We both have a problem..
me and my back /Spine and him with his Diabetes..
yet we are both really happy together other wise.. ..
Do you think there's anything I / We can do to improve what we've got or should I /We keep the status quo as it is..??
I feel really happy with him and he seems to want it all to continue as it is..
I would like some input if anyone can give me/ us any Ideas? ??
Thank you ..