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Old 03-07-2012, 11:31 PM   #1
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Unhappy Orgasm Trouble

Okay, so I know I'm only 20 and it's difficult for a lot of women to achieve orgasm, but I felt my question pretty relevant nonetheless. Backstory: I have a really difficult time masturbating at all because I suppressed my desires a lot as a teenager. I've only been sexually active for a year and a half and have slowly learned to have fun and really enjoy it thanks to my really supportive boyfriend. However, to my knowledge, I've never had an orgasm.

I know you'll probably say that if I'm not sure, I haven't had it, but there's what I feel. Once things start getting really intense, I tense up and breathe a bit louder and more erratically, but then I just get really warm and have to stop because it feels uncomfortable to go on. There's no big moment where I'm just satisfied or feel really awesome all over. It just sort of stops.

Is this normal? If I'm not actually reaching some weird, unintense peak, am I at least getting close to the good one?

Thanks.

 
Old 03-09-2012, 04:29 PM   #2
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Re: Orgasm Trouble

I used to be completely unable to orgasm too, and I also used to think that there was something wrong with me.

I tried masturbation again and discovered that I can orgasm if I can have a nice, quiet setting to do it in, I usually listen to some music and just relax my entire body, I think stressing out about not having an orgasm was actually messing with my mind a little.

 
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Old 03-09-2012, 05:47 PM   #3
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Re: Orgasm Trouble

I dated a girl and she never had an orgasm while we were having sex. I asked her early in our relationship if she ever had a orgasm during sex and she said no.

3 years into the relationship I caught her masturbating. I was shocked. I talked to her about it and she said its the only way she could come. She would have up to 11 orgasms in one session. I asked her way she never told me, and that I would like to be part of her masturbating. She told me she was embarrassed. I thought it was sexy. We worked on making me part of her masturbation sessions but she never came with me inside her or from me touching her.

 
Old 03-13-2012, 02:11 AM   #4
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Re: Orgasm Trouble

Quote:
Originally Posted by cbhattarai View Post
In womens it is really hard to get orgasm faster like boyz.
I know. I have learned.

 
Old 03-24-2012, 02:00 AM   #5
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Re: Orgasm Trouble

I think I have a very similar issue. I can get off from clitoral stimulation... but only if I'm really turned on to begin with, and nothing hurts, at any point, during any manipulation. But vaginal orgasm? Forget about it. I've never had one. It most always feels good, but I've never come from it. One fella I dated briefly callously said that, "Some girls just can't." I think that's a load of mallarky. It may take a bit more work on the part of the other partner, but it's possible.

I know when I was first together with my current boyfriend, he hurt me because he was using too much pressure, or too much direct stimulation. After communicating honestly with him, and because he's a good man, things have improved dramatically. He gives a damn. Sometimes it still hurts, and sometimes I still don't get off... but a lot of it, I believe, is about talking to your partner. If it feels good, do it. If it doesn't.. stop, reposition, try again. There is nothing wrong with just -being- with a person, on a both physical -and- emotional level if the sex isn't working. Sometimes things get stronger.

 
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