My partner has had a hymenectomy and has just started dating and engaging in sex with me, her first partner for some years. While it has been great, she cant seem to orgasm or feel much during sex. Have read about the procedure but im curious as to if there could be permanent nerve damage there? Or what other factors could be invovled? I have looked into it, and vaginal dilators keep coming up, but I am unsure as to whether that would really help. Besides a gynecologist is there another specialist who might be able to help?
Hi DannyAvid! I assume when you say 'during sex' you mean 'during intercourse'.
Most women don't orgasm from intercourse alone, since most of the nerves (the important ones) are connected to the clitoris, not the vagina. A lot of women just feel pressure, or movement, during intercourse, and while this should feel really good and all, it's most often not enough to bring on orgasm.
The hymen is just a barrier to protect the vagina with very few nerve endings on its own, and once it's gone (naturally or by hymenectomy) it really shouldn't factor into anything. So unless they cut away WAY more than they should have and damaged her surrounding tissue (not likely), it probably isn't the cause of any lack of sensation down there.
My question, is she getting the right stimulation where she needs it, or are you guys counting on intercourse to do the trick? Because that only works in less that 20% of women.
hey, during sex includes intercourse, but is not limited to intercourse, i have tried fellatio and using my hands etc but still nothing. she is really concerned and has her own appointment etc but I am curious as well, she said that she even tried it herself and didnt feel anything. sigh. problemo much.