| bf doesn't want sex bc he can't get me off
My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex, or has a lower desire for sex with me because he has never been able to give me an orgasm. I have always done self service. We have been together for five years now. No one has ever been able to give me an orgasm by any means. Not through penetration, oral or even by rubbing. It is like my body will not respond to a foreign touch. I have also always had a problem getting wet for sex. I will be all there mentally, but my body is completely unresponsive, which makes me more self conscious, like i am frigid. We had an argument tonight about why I don't get wet. I said I require a lot of foreplay, and we NEVER have foreplay. i kid you not, sex initiation went like this the other day: me: hey honey, wanna have sexy time? him: ok, pants off. ......mind you, the heat doesn't come in our bedroom very well (meaning the heating, the heat vents, its an old house) and if i am cold? HA, forget it. so then add on being cold, scared i wont respond by getting wet, fear of appearing frigid and unsexual, and my mind won't turn off....it just doesn't happen. When he goes down on me, it's like i don't feel anything. nothing. i feel a tongue on my vagina, yes. but there is no tingling, no good shivering, nothing. this is always how oral sex has felt to me. is there something wrong with me? are my nerves dead?
He says he doesn't feel that foreplay helps me in anyway so he doesn't see the point in it. I realize i am making him out to sound like an *******, and maybe he is. but that is not the problem i am trying to solve. This isn't a problem i've had only with him, so it's got to be me.
I am on birth control, the pill obviously. Ive read that many people can't get wet while on the pill. maybe that contributes?
please offer some advice, i am so tired of this problem : (
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