I have been dating my bf for 6 months. My folks really like him, and he is a really nice guy. He always calls me. He pays for me on dates. He has brought me flowers a few times. He is a decent listener. Overall he is really respectful to me.
But our sex life needs work. I give him a blow job about every time I see him which I can see on his face he is in heaven. He hardly ever initiates sex with me, I have to initiate. And I think he has given me oral sex about 6 times total since we started dating. I know that he has porn on his phone and masturbates often, but why isn't he directing that attention to me? I could have sex everyday, but I have had to go weeks without it with him. I don't know how much longer I can take it. Is it just a guy thing to not want to give head to a girl I feel like it isn't that much of a turn on for men? I keep everything trimmed.
You're going to have to ask him what his deal is. I've never dated a guy who didn't like to reciprocate, in fact they've all bragged about how they were the best at it. Anyway I don't think anyone here can tell you what's going on in his mind so you'll have to talk about it with him.
Well, a man has a nature, and it may sound weird to most women, because it's not her nature, which is "if you don't ask for it, he doesn't think it's necessarily initiated. You want it, you ask me for that." Well, most women never asks, they get used to with others initiated without being asked.
Briefly said, if you want something, ask for it, but don't blame yourself for that. This method should be learn if you want to understand how the nature of a man is. But don't do it too often, because it will become a habit, and in the end you would become emotionally exhausted.