hi

i'm 17, and a virgin, and i really get no feeling from clitoral stimulation. I've been with my current boyfriend for over a year, and whilst we havent had sex, we've done 'other things'

none of which have lead to an orgasm for me, it feels good, but nothing close to what ive heard about.
I've loked online and we/i have literally tried everything about self-exploration and relaxation and lots of suggested masturbation/stimulation techniques but nothing seems to work. I have orgasmed with a vibrator and by putting that area under the bath jet (wierd, i know), so i know i can, but i cant get it to happen manually.
Also, my **** is quite small, and sometimes hurts slightly with direct contact, could this be a factor?
If anyone has the same problems or knows how to help any advice would be great, as it's putting a strain on my relationship, and well, its pretty frustrating for me too. thanks xxxx