can this happen to a woman too - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

mt_girl · 10-27-2002, 07:40 AM

Can girls get "blue balls" type feelings too? where you just ache and get moody because while turned on you don't get to ***?
I will explain, the past month or two my bf of several years has been having some problems with lasting more then a few minutes. He gets so frustrated with himself, even though I tell him it don't matter how long it lasts because he always feels awsome. (i think he understands it that I don't need anything else so he just holds me and we both fall alseep) I am get terrably moody lately when I don't get to make love to him... To the point of crying at times...
I have recently talked to him about it, however because I won't do anything while I am bleeding, I haven't seen if he will actually take note of my needs and play a little before or after he **** so I can too.
So is this normal? also... He refuses to go to the doctor for other thing so I havn't even broached the subject for this issue... He has a couple beers a day, but he has done that for a couple years now and it has never affected him before... so don't think it is that... Do any of you have any suggestions for ME? Something I could do differantly to make him last longer. (sometimes he says I wiggled too much) and while that makes me feel good that i make him ***, i wonder if I am doing something wrong to make him *** so fast...
anyhelp would be greatly appriciated

buck58 · 10-27-2002, 08:26 AM

What your referring to is called premature ejaculation. But what he needs to know is, no matter if he gets off in 2 mins. or 30 mins. He needs to make sure your needs are being met too. Like you said, if he's gonna *** that quick, what he needs to do before hand, is, get you soooo ready,with foreplay, that by the time he gets off in 3 mins. you've already had 1 or 2 orgasms yourself. I'm sure he wishes he could last longer but some men just can't. But you guys can work around this like I said above. Good luck to you both. see ya.
buck.