spanking - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

Bryl · 10-23-2002, 07:06 AM

Anybody here into spanking? Anyone like to be punsihed and called names? Another kink of mine. Dont think the wife is up to it tho.

mlgable · 10-23-2002, 08:29 AM

You will never know unless you open up to your wife and tell her about it. Once you open up to her and get her opinion on this type of thing you may want to consider getting the book titled When Someone You Love Is Kinky. Good Luck. Remember marriage is all about compromising so talk to her.

Blastoff9600 · 10-23-2002, 09:03 AM

The first reply is so right. Talking is so important. Though I have to say it might take a while also. My hubby isnt into a lot things that I am but after several years of openly talking with him and then getting him to read the book Come Hither A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex, he opened up to trying the stuff I like.
The other book mentioned is also a good one to read.
The interesting thing is he really seems to get a kick out of the stuff we do now,though when it was first brought up he swore he could never get into.
So talk to your wife but be patient and make sure you listen to her point of view. Dont push her and be understanding of what she feels about it.

Bryl · 10-23-2002, 09:27 AM

What sort of stuff is it that he wasnt keen on? I get the feeling the stuff that turns me on might disgust her. I like the i dea of spanking her and coming on her etc etc. Pretty harsh really.

Blastoff9600 · 10-23-2002, 10:02 AM

Well he didnt like the idea of spanking or using a flogger on me. I also have showed him other things I want to try but we are taking it slow so he can get use to things at his pace.
You never know until you talk to her how she will feel about it. Though I cant stress enough that you need to tell her that regular sex is fine with you. That was a big problem my hubby had. He thought that the reason I was wanting do these other things is I wasnt happy with our sex life. It took me a while to convince him it had nothing to do with that. That I was more than happy with our sex life,that I just wanted to try out other things. So make sur eyou let her know you are still happy with your current sex life.