bad sex life - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

bluejeans20 · 11-02-2002, 07:57 PM

Hi,
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 and half years. We have been having sex for 3 years and i have never had a orgasm. Im a quiet and very self concious person. So its probally my fault for not getting into it. He doesnt last very long sometimes no more than 5-8 minuetes. We always do fore play but its never enough to get me to the point of orgasam. I know he tries hard and wants me to because he always gets upset after sex. Ive tried to do it myself but that doesnt work. Also we always do it in the same place because im not a rebel at all. so i dont like to do it places we could get caught and he lives in a dorm. So its not easy to find different places to do it. Any suggestions on how we could spice up our sex life? i fee like we are already a old married couple and we are only in our 20's. Its kinda depressing to think about what its going to be like once we get married.
Thanks!

Hezza · 11-02-2002, 08:01 PM

Hmmm, interesting.
Dorm room sex is never interesting, it's too small to move!
Why don't you spice it up with a few toys?
I know you said you're not a very open person so you might be a little embarassed about toys, but I was too at first! Give it a try!
Get a small vibrator and he can use it on you and vice versa. Get some of those kinky dice, I'm sure they can help! I hope they can anyway!
Or find some positions online that you're interested in trying and ask him if he'd be willing!
Hope some of this is of assistance!

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bluejeans20 · 11-02-2002, 08:15 PM

hi Thanks Hezza thanks for responding. Yeah i have thought about toys. Im just so nervous about going into those stores. The only store i know of is in my town. Im nervous im going to see someone i know! lol sorry im a spaz. but i think i will eventually do it and get over that silly fear. But i hope that will help out! but i did forgot to add in that i get soar after about 5 min. of sex. Anyone know why that happeneds or any suggestions on how to fix that?
thanks

Hezza · 11-03-2002, 07:16 AM

Use lube, it'll keep you moist enough so that you shouldn't get sore!
As for the sex stores, shop online!

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A good friend is someone who will bail you out of jail.
A best friend is someone who will sit next to you and say "That was fawkin' awesome!"

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[This message has been edited by bfl (edited 11-04-2002).]