Sex and patience? - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

dsheldon3 · 11-04-2002, 09:06 PM

How long do you wait for your lover to get interested?How much rejection do you take? When your in a steady love making relationship and then the other person suddenly loses interest in sex how long do you wait for them to get interested again?What is normal?How long should I wait for my BF to get interested in sex again before I dump him ?LOL ! Seriously, I'm thinking of dumping him if something doesn't happen soon.I don't want to "just" be his friend but he is making a joke out of everything ,mostly my emotions.So, maybe he isn't doing it on purpose and just can't get into it.How long should I wait before writing him off as a deadbeat?

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PiePants · 11-04-2002, 10:39 PM

How guys can be completely turned off on sex is beyond me. How guys can be completely turned off from intimacy is just annoying.

Honey, if the man ain't giving you shouldn't put up much longer. If that's what you want in a relationship, you better tell him asap or else you'll give up the guy, and it won't be pretty.

dsheldon3 · 11-04-2002, 10:57 PM

I did tell him, and he thinks its a big joke and turns down any advances I make and has stopped comming on to me.Well, if he thinks a relationship without any sex is great, he will just have to have it with someone else.Heck, thats probably why it stopped to begin with.Hes getting it elsewhere and hes getting it good cause theres nuthin left for me.

I guess I lost, AGAIN ! %$%*@$^%#%#^@^$@$@y!!!!!!

mlgable · 11-05-2002, 09:11 AM

Have you discussed the possibility of there being a possible physical cause of his decreased sex drive. Is he on any new medications? I would discuss why he is not interested in sex any more and if he can't come up with a reason then insist he see the doc about this and get checked out. If he cares enough about you he will do this. If he doesn't then you need to move on.

mothmin · 11-05-2002, 08:38 PM

ds,I WAS that guy once, I never thought in a million years I'd turn sex for any reason, but I had a gf that just constantly wanted to fight about everything, if I wouldn't fight, she got even more ****ed off. I would go see her, wanting to have a good time, and she'd start a fight, then later she'd call and say " i'm horny please come back over"......yeah right. I hope that's not your situation, but you should get to the bottom of it now. and there's no guilt if you leave him. good luck.