Wil

Hi A guys perspective here.

If you dont tell him you dont orgasm with him, you essentially cut off any chance of this happening between the two of you. Here is why...

There is a space between you and your husband that you cannot see but is real and can be felt. It can be filled with desire/love/lust/anger/secrets/doubt and although he wont be able to verbalize what he is feeling, there will not be a space between you that is clear of your doubts/anxiety and it will stay this way and as the time goes on, it will multiply and intimacy will be almost nonexistient. To use another analogy here - If you walk into a room after 2 people have been fighting and although no one is saying anything you can still feel the tension like you can cut it with a knife. Everyone can relate to this eh? This is energy and your body can feel it and converts it into thoughts/ideas and impressions.
So if you never get it out in the open with your husband and talk about it until it is resolved or you both come up with a plan to address this issue being honest and without blame, it will go away and can be replaced with the love/desire you had for each other. Even more so if you both feel comfortable and try different things to get you off.

Honesty is a good thing, but if both are aligned and trust is established. My 2 cents from a divorced but wiser guy...
Wil