BIG! - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

ana_24 · 01-21-2003, 07:02 AM

My new boyfriend is very well endowed, thicker than what I am used to. I found that when we had sex for the first time, I was a bit sore afterwards. Even during sex, it was obviously a little harder to put it in and we were doing it for close to an hour. I came first and afterwards, we kept going so that he can finish and it took him a while and I guess in the mean time, I got a little dry from all the in and out motion. Well, I'm now quite sore and I find that I'm even sore a little lower (around the anal area).. even though he didn't penetrate that in any way. In time, will my vagina stretch and adjust to accomodate him? He wanted to have sex again in the morning but I just couldn't even think about it. I normally have a high sexual apetite and now I'm afraid that he may be too large for me... mind you, he's not huge or anything, just larger than what I am used to. I also find that certain positions, especially from behind, hurt. I almost miss my ex's smaller penis. Guys, let this be a lesson to you! Larger is not always better!!

Blastoff9600 · 01-21-2003, 09:03 AM

To ease the soreness try(if you can)putting a cool wet washcloth on that area. Fair warning it will feel colder than it actually is. I still have to do this sometimes because DH is big. You would figure that with over 8 years together I would be use to it but there are times that it still gets sore.
In time you will get adjusted to him. In the mean while make sure to keep some lube on hand to help. I know doesnt sound very romantic but it should help to keep you from drying out.

PAISLEY · 01-21-2003, 09:55 AM

I understand! But, in time it will get easier. Just a side note...now that you've experienced someone bigger, if you ever have sex again with someone smaller than him, you will REALLY feel the difference. It's a never ending cycle! LOL!!

ana_24 · 01-21-2003, 10:38 AM

So are you saying I will be spoiled for ever? lol.. I guess I better hang on to this one then.
I'm just not sure that I'm all that crazy about the idea of BIGGER. It's not necessarily better. My ex was what you would say average and we fit together perfectly.. never had any complaints. I do think you're right though.. I will likely notice a difference if I go back to that.
I just hope my body adjusts to the size. He's 6'3" and I'm 5'4" so definitely there's a difference there in every way. I just hope that I won't have to rely on lube every time we have sex. Not very romantic at all.. Oh, and I happened to have mentioned to my boyfriend that he's bigger than what I'm used to and oh my! did his head ever swell! lol...

Merrida · 01-21-2003, 12:18 PM

Don't under-estimate how sexy lube can be. It is what you make it, and it can be fun if you get creative with it. It'll be a turn off if you act as if it is,... it's in the attitude.