Will there ever be a chance for love? - Sexually Transmitted Diseases Message Board

Lime22 · 03-27-2004, 03:10 AM

I am a 22 yr old female. My ex boyfriend gave me herpes and never told me before hand that he had it.

I feel as though my chances of having a husband and family will be a slim chance. What are the chances that I can find someone that would want to be with me even though I have this?

Will some of you please at least say if you would even consider being with someone that has this?
(Even if you would not consider being with someone with this would you respond and say so)

I am so sad and I am afraid that I wont be able to have anyone to have a family with in the future because of this.

I appriciate any responces, Thank You
Lime22

Still hoping for the chance of a good and happy future

musicgirl00 · 03-27-2004, 09:48 AM

My sister is in the same situation as you (as far as how she got it) Shes had many boyfriends since then and has even been engaged. You need to build a relationship with someone first and then when the time is right before you get intimate let them know that you do have this and that it can only be spread during an outbreak and that you are on medicine. Let them know that you will tell them if you even think that you are starting to get one. I dont know about your particular case but i know people who have had one outbreak but never got one again. you just need to let them know about how to prevent it being spread and how it is possible to have intimate relations. You also can have a family. The doctor just needs to know that you have herpes so that they can do a C-section instead of natural childbirth, because this can cause the baby to come out blind. (This is what my sis's doctor told her) This has worked for my sister in past relationships.

Lonely810810 · 03-28-2004, 10:27 AM

Are you even aware of how many people currently have herpes or genital warts.....Please I went through the same situation.45 million people have warts and 45 million have herpes in hte united states alone.and 5 million new cases are added every year these are factual stats.......I know this is sad to say but these two stds are very common.....