Not hurt, help (Clahmydia) - Sexually Transmitted Diseases Message Board

everydayangel · 12-30-2004, 10:08 PM

I am very young and have had 2 sexual partners. Both of which I was in long-term relationships with at some point. My last sexual partner is many years older than me, and I cannot tell anyone that we've had sex.

About 3 weeks ago I got my annual pap smear. This became a problem when I found out I had clahmydia. I know a lot about clahmydia because my first sexual partner cheated on me and gave it to me.

This time is different though, because my partner is not coorperating with me. He claims he got tested and knows he doesn't have it. But because he told me that the day after I found out I have it, I do not believe that he has been tested.

Once I found out, I immediately took the pills required and I am cured. I hope that my ex can do the same because I care for his well-being.

There is another aspect to this situation, which is, his baby girl. He has a 3-month-old daughter, whom I believe could also be infected. I feel that his baby's mother gave him this disease (being as though we were together before and after their relationship) but when I contacted her, she refused to go get tested.

My ex wants to continue to have sex with me, which of course I'm not going to do. I fear that he will have unprotected sex with many women before he decides it's time to take care of this.

How could I inform someone with the power to force these 3 people (mother, father, and child) to become tested and cured, without getting legalities involved? Because both the mother and I are underage, plus I'm not trying to harm my ex or his family, but only to help him to be healthy.

Magnetic · 01-01-2005, 04:32 PM

Precautions are taken during childbirth to protect babies from possible chlamydia, so your worries may be unfounded regarding the child. You can call up your local county or state health clinic for confidential advice. They may take down the names, but all they can do is contact the individuals and recommend they get tested - only a court can order them to get tested and treated.

As for the adults, you have done all you can (well, by having sex, you have done too much, actually). Break off the relationship as this man clearly has little true regard for you (and he appears to be a child preditor and could end up in jail).