Originally Posted by pegela
feels like there is a mass near or pressing on the rectum.
Have you talked to your doctor about a possible rectocele? That's where the rectum bulges into the vagina, and is basically a result of general pelvic muscle weakness (especially if you've had kids). You might do a search to see if those symptoms resonate for you.
As for the herpes thing, don't feel bad. 25% of the population has genital herpes (including me), and we continue to live healthy, fulfilling and satisfying lives anyway. I think the thing most people have difficulty with is the stigma of having a STD, not the STD itself. If you could contract herpes from sneezing and then touching a doorknob, nobody would even give it a second thought. If you're having frequent outbreaks, ask your doctor to put you on suppressive therapy. But since you describe this diagnosis as "devastating", I think it really would be a good idea to see a counselor, maybe just for a couple of sessions. It really helps to have someone to talk to :-)