If you and your partner have herpes>>>> - Sexually Transmitted Diseases Message Board

Sweetest_Pink00 · 05-17-2007, 01:32 PM

If you and ur partner have herpes and you continue to have sex with ONLY each other, is there a way that you can develope some type of infection or other STD?????? What if you have unprotected sex ONLY with your partner as well????Another question is it bad to try to conceive a child with the Herpes infection/virus????

dustoffkid · 05-17-2007, 01:41 PM

If you have sex ONLY with each other, then what you have is all you will get. This doesn't mean that there is nothing else lurking there that one of you may have (which isn't symptomatic).

As for having babies while infected with herpes, I know that there is a risk of infecting the baby's eyes (and maybe more). You may want to ask the doctor about that, or perhaps someone here will jump on and tell you the risks.

But bottom line, herpes does not change into anything else. It is what it is.

Sweetest_Pink00 · 05-17-2007, 01:54 PM

Thank you sooo much for clearing that up for me. Another concern of mine About a few months back my boyfriend's doctor said he may have chlamydia. so we both went to get tested. They also tested for other things like hiv herpes and gonorrhea but im still concerned because they told us we were both negative for everything. Last month i had a cold sore but i didnt pay it no mind i thought it came from me rubbing my lips when they got chapped or licking my lips too much. Now i have another a smaller one. what can this be if i was tested negative and still have cold sore???????(never had anything like this before last month) Could i still have herpes????? My partner was with no one else but me. About 3 months back i hooked up with this one guy when me and my bf split i did kiss him but he didnt have any sores or nothing. Could i have gotten it from him? if i did i know i may have passed it on to my BF but he has no symptoms or sores either?????? Im sooooo worried Plz help.

keepsgoin · 05-17-2007, 05:26 PM

If you could have the sore cultured now that would tell you for sure if it's a cold sore(hsv). I suppose it could be something else...is it possible you're maybe allergic to something? Lipstick or gloss or even a lip balm?

Herpes tests aren't 100% accurate and also if you just got it it's possible to not get a positive test result yet.

rhiannon777 · 05-17-2007, 08:59 PM

Having a cold sore does not mean you have genital herpes. Most everyone has been exposed to the oral herpes virus and it is nothing to be worried about or ashamed of. Herpes in your oral areas and genital areas are caused by the same virus, but it will not travel from one area to the other. You should know, however, that oral sex while you have a cold sore could give someone genital herpes.

To answer your questions about genital herpes (although based on what you said, you have only the oral kind and do not need to be worried), it's fine to have sex if you both have herpes. It will not create any additional STDs. I would advise avoiding sex during an outbreak, but I doubt you'd be wanting to have sex if you had a genital herpes outbreak anyway. Provided you've been tested and know that there's no risk one of you is carrying anything else (such as HIV) that hasn't been detected AND you've protected yourself against pregnancy, unprotected sex between two partners with herpes is fine too. I assume that you and your boyfriend were treated for chlamydia if those test results came back positive.

As far as having babies goes, there's no risk with oral herpes. If a woman has genital herpes, she can pass this on to the baby during birth and this can be very dangerous or even deadly. However, suppression therapy can be used (drugs like Valtrex) to ensure that she doesn't have an outbreak at the time of delivery and if there is any doubt, the baby can be delivered through a C-section to avoid any risk.