innerstrength86

Awww, I don't really know what to tell you, but I wanted to respond! Sorry you're caught in this situation...sucks having an STD (I have HPV).

It sounds like you haven't told him you have Herpes (I don't blame you, those things are kind of personal), but I think now that you two have slept together you owe telling him. He is a friend of yours too...

I don't know how Valtrex works (at all), but I'm pretty sure there is a possibility you could have given it to him. I don't know (can't even estimate) what the chances would be, but I would treat it similar to getting pregnant - I mean, you can get pregnant after one time of having sex, right? You can also get pregnant even when wearing a condom... My point is that nothing is foolproof.

Even if you did have an outbreak at the time, I don't think that means he will definitely have it, just a strong chance he will (like getting pregnant, the egg/sperm have to have good timing, except I think herpes is highly transmittable).

I'm sorry you're going through this, I really don't know what else to say.

I'm sure it's scary, but I really think you owe it to him. In my opinion, he needs to know the truth and you two can deal with it from there.