Scared, depressed, and alone.....my world is caving in!!!! - Sexually Transmitted Diseases Message Board

Sabrina7 · 05-31-2008, 10:40 PM

I am new to your message board and not really sure how to use this thing yet. I found out I have Herpes about 6 months ago. My family tries to support me but they don't understand how I feel. I feel alone....I am angry inside and I don't know what to do with it. When I thought I came to grips with my situation, I played it off like I was okay, but I can put on a front pretty easy. I worry about so many things... I have so many questions and I have no where to go with them.

AnnD · 06-01-2008, 12:34 AM

I am sorry that you feel so alone and angry...you have a right to feel all those things. Someone gave it to you so yes I would be angry too that they didn't do anything to protect you. Trust me when I say that that you are not alone there are soooo many in your same shoes that also feel alone but this is such a personal disease that no one wants to talk about it...I would guess one in 5 people you know have this and also are keeping it to themselves and are feeling like you. Also know with time your depression and loneliness will lift and you will start to be your old self. Meanwhile, educate yourself about it and learn all you can so when you are up to it you will be able to speak to others on the subject with knowledge. Take your time ...you are going through the grief process that everyone goes through. Depending on where you live some hospitals have an STD clinic ...they also have support groups where everyone is in the same boat as you. Just know for now that all this you are feeling is very normal and it will pass.

kelly1986 · 06-01-2008, 09:22 AM

hi sabrina7,

my name is kelly and i have had genital herpes since 1993, so if you have questions, it is quite likely that i may have answers or at least support....my family and friends have been wonderful, but i just don't think GH is something you can quite relate to unless you have had an outbreak.....and the emotional part of it was at first pretty overwhelming also...i am very open about it now. its just part of my life, so i wanted to let you know that you can ask me anything and i won't be offended or embarrassed!!! i'll do whatever i can to help...

these boards have been a lifesaver for me...the people who post here are wonderful...so anyway....ask away and remember we have been where you are!!

love and prayers kelly

sassy32 · 06-27-2008, 01:15 PM

I just found out today i have herpes. I feel so alone, too. I've been with my bf for 7 mths and he's the one person I count on for support. I feel quilty, like it's my fault- even though neither of us have had it before. Who knows where it came from. I'm not mad at him, I don't think it matters who gave what to who. We are talking about getting marrried, at least we were. I told him a few hours ago, and he wouldn't even speak to me. He said he didn't know if he could still love me. I told him that if this situation made him question our relationship(cause he could have given it to me!), he didn't love me to begin with. He apologized, told me he did love me- but we'll see. I feel like a bit of time will either make him realize it's just something to deal with or he might never be able to stop blaming me. I'm trying to stay optimistic.