Due to infertility factors in both myself and my wife, we first tried IVF back in 2003. It failed, and it was another 3 years before we could save enough money to try it again. My wife is a carrier of Duchenne's Muscular Dystrophy, so in the first failed trial we tried to have all girls, using PGD (the MD doesn't show up in the girls, only the boys). By the time we got around to trying again, science had come far enough along to where a 3-day old embryo could be tested. We implanted 2 girls that were carriers and one boy that was free of the genetic disease, in late Oct 2006. About 6 weeks later, 2 heartbeats were detected and we were ecstatic.
In late December, my wife had a very large bleed (it was scary!), and we just knew it was the end. We called the OB hotline, and they recommended we go to the emergency room. That was a huge mistake, as our local emergency room was ill-equipped to handle the situation (it was a weekend, late at night, and the ultrasound specialist wouldn't come in). So after about 6 hours, we went to the big city to get our bad news. Imagine our surprise when they did an internal ultrasound and the babies were perfectly fine (it's amazing how well formed they are after just 12 weeks)!
This happened once more in January, for no apparent reason. So we're finally getting used to this unexplainable bleeding and starting to live with it.
We got our 18-week ultrasound in January, and found out we had 1 boy and 1 girl, but the boy had a "single umbilical artery" (just the thing to go look at the internet and get scared about) but he seemed to be doing fine. Three weeks later, they saw a "choroid plexus cyst" in the boy's head (again, something to go and get scared about), but again he was still doing fine (supposedly these choroid plexus cysts are soft markers for heart problems or other physical deformities).
So we've decided at this point that whatever we get, we'll be happy with. Then, the first Saturday in March, my wife feels odd little cramps (this was her first pregnancy, so she didn't really know what they meant). We called the doctor, were told to come in, and found out she was going into pre-term labor! We even had the team come in to explain to us that 22-week fetuses don't stand much of a chance, and asked if we wanted them to attempt to keep them alive or let nature take its course, if they were born early (all very scary, but of course we told them to do everything they could). Denise got steroid shots, they gave her drugs in the hopes they would slow down the labor cramps, and slowly but surely the weeks rolled by. Finally, after much worrying, little Chris Junior and Chloe were born on May 30 (34-1/2 weeks along). With little Chris' choroid plexus cyst & single umbilical artery, he got extra examining, but he's perfectly healthy. They stayed in NICU for about 4 days. They're now a little over 4 months old, and doing well (they're both suffering colicky gas pains, but at least that's only during the evening hours, and hopefully should go away within a few more weeks)
If you've managed to get through the whole post, thanks for letting me share our story with you. And to anyone else out there that experiences a bump in the road while trying to have a baby, keep your chin up and try to persevere!