jazzmine

I just had surgery to repair a very small tear in my rotator cuff and remove a bone spur. I'm in my 30's and have small kids. I've been really upset since my surgery because my doctor never told me how bad the surgery was going to be and how immobile my arm was going to be and how long it was really going to take to recover. I have been feeling sorry I ever did the surgery. It's been about a few days now since the surgery and I'm so frustrated with myself for not asking the right questions and with my doctor for not being more truthful or informative about the surgery. What's killing me is the precious time I'm losing with my kids because I don't get to hug them and play with them and enjoy them anymore. I find myself trying to do those things with them with one arm, but the pain gets in the way and I'm mentally always preoccupied. I really didn't expect this amount of pain and didn't know I was going to be immobile with the arm. I had spoken with my doctor about the surgery and asked questions, but I never asked about being immobile like this or the pain. I had asked if I'll be okay by December for a special event and He said I should be fine by December, but I don't see it by what I read on here. Some people say it takes 6 months up to a year to feel better. I've been crying about this and have been really upset over it. I need help or advice from people who have gone though this please! I also wonder if I really needed this surgery. My arm had been bothering me off and on for a year but the pain was not that intense. I know he said the bone spur was digging into the rotator cuff, but I now wonder if there was a different way of resolving this. I kick myself for not getting another opinion. Also when is this horrible pain going to get better? I also get this bad shooting pain going up and down my arm and shoulder..,.what is that?