How are you doing?? Has the medication done anything to help you as of yet??
If not, it could take the Abilify 2-4 weeks to start giving you complete comfort. If it hasn't helped you in 4 weeks...call your doctor and ask if something else can be prescribed for you. Unfortunately, it sometimes takes awhile to find the medication that works best for you. On the other hand, sometimes one gets lucky and the first medication that the doctor prescribes is what works for the person.
I know gastric bypass surgery is a very major surgery. My friend had it done about 9 years ago and he had a very good experience. What is it about the surgery that is scaring you so much?? Have you sought counseling concerning this surgery? I don't know where you live but I do know that in most places there are support groups for those who are about to have the surgery and for those who have already had the surgery. Maybe it would be a good idea for you to try and find others who have gone through this surgery so that they may be able to put some of your anxieties to rest. You describe this surgery as a "trauma" and I know this surgery is not a small simple procedure; but is it worth it for you to have the surgery 6 months from now if it's causing this much anxiety? Again, I don't know if you've sought counseling prior to this procedure but it might be worth putting the surgery off until you are more at ease with it.
May I ask what song/s are going through your head? Do you enjoy any type of music? If so, maybe you could find some kind of relaxing music to listen to with a headset. I know that won't drown out the thoughts but it might distract you for awhile...even 5 minutes of relief is better than none at all.
PLEASE keep me informed on how you are doing! My thoughts and prayers are with you!
Blessings,
Cara