I'm Mourning Life

[bellalilly]

Your welcome. I do understand. This is a new, unfortunate experience for you. Give yourself time and take a big breath. It isn't going to bother you all the time. I'm telling you, try to relax. It dosen't help to get so worked up about it. It won't make it go away and all it does it make it stay longer or appear.
Your right, I do care, even though I don't know you. I know so many people with this and even yesterday I was talking to a male friend(gorgeous and on the dating scene) and he even made the comment that it isn't a big deal these days. You just have to be ready to be honest when the time comes(with a partner). He even said, if someone loves you, or enjoys spending time with you they are not going to drop you b/c of this. Most really won't. I believe that. You have to focus more on all the good things in your life and try to find a way to cope with this. I know it hasn't been very long and I'm sure it will get easier with time. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? lizzie

[bellalilly]

oh yea, aren't there other new drugs out there that you can try. Other than Valtrex. That's what I take when I have outbreaks and it dosen't seem to bother me. see what's out there. tell your dr.

[awesomeangie]

I don't take valtrex for anymore due to the cost... I take the older/generic version of it which works just fine for my HSV2. The meds I take is called acyclovir. I actually had to research it because the doctors neglect to advise you about it. Between the acyclovir and Zovirax (ointment) I do just fine. Plus, keeping your stress levels down, anger, etc. is a big part of controlling your outbreaks. Regarding new relationships... when you're ready, you will find someone out there for you. I just started dating and my guy is very accepting of the herpes. Before I met him, I was dating a pharmaceuticals salesman, and when I told him of my problem, he was like... yeah, thats it? That talk was a breeze! Anyways, right now, it sounds like your in major shock over the newness, however, at least you have people you can talk to about it. That's something I didn't have when I was 18 and had my first outbreak. I've had it for 19 years now. Things will get better for you! For me, the outbreaks are a mere annoyance - much like getting a pimple. I start taking the medication at the first sign of an outbreak and they don't last long, and most times they really don't even get started because I do start the meds so quickly.
You will be fine, and you will get deal with this "little problem". Because, that is all it really is. Good luck, hope you feel better! Angie

[matter of time]

It is very upsetting when you first find out you have GH but over time you do get used to it. OB occur less often and and become mild. I take Valtrex and OB are barely noticiable. You will come to realize that in between ob you are perfectly fine. When you come to a point when you realize it is not a big deal, you will be able to tell future partners in a relaxed way. Get information to give them the facts. As others have said, it is not the end of your life. It may improve your life since it forces you to have honest relationships with people who really care for you. It will happen. Things will look very different in 6 months to a year.

[danielle17]

you no what im glad im not the only one who got treated like i was a freak, i went to my doctors i was so worried i was told i had herpes and they didnt give me no support no information i didnt no the first thing about herpes and as u did i lernt it from the internet finding out what i can an can not do but u no what u got to live you life i have learnt that its not the end of the world and trust me there is someone for you and they will accept u i am still with the person that i got herpes from over a year now... i lost my virginity to him and got herpes so i can say yes im depressed but im learning to cope x