Oh my, MM....I am soo sorry to hear about your fall!! After all that you have been through I am praying that it is just your body shocked and nothing more. I recall having just gotten out of the hospital from having major colon surgery, a friend of mine picked me up since hubby was out of town. We stopped off at a convenience store and sitting upright was uncomfortable. So I used the handle on the side of the seat to recline it a bit and it went straight back!!!
I felt this internal tearing which burned my entire abdomen and all I could imagine was that all the internal handiwork that the surgeon had done was torn apart!! Turns out that I was just fine. Hopefully the same will be true for you.
Oh Jules....I am soo sorry about all that your daughter is going through. I think it is a great idea that she speak to a therapist and hopefully that will help her through the pain of it all. How did things go today with your younger daughter???
Today was the longest day for me as a mom. Daughter went off to school and hubby drove her in. Her NGBF's (no good boyfriend's) father would drive them each morning so we wanted to ease her into all of this. She has a few classes with him as well so I KNEW that it wouldn't be an easy day for her.
When I picked her up for her pdoc appt. she was smiling and the first thing I thought was that she was back together with him. But she wasn't, she shared with me for the 45 minute drive (while she was driving) how free she felt and how so many people in school were there for her including some of her teachers. I was actually shocked and she even went on to say how great it feels to be single again and that she thinks that she is going to stay away from boyfriends because in just a short time she will be going away to college and doesn't want to go through all of this again.
I was so impressed with her emotional maturity but did forewarn her that she probably would have some sad days when this all hit her and that it would be normal and how proud I was of the way she was handling it and how much she deserved to be happy.
We saw the pdoc and he was impressed with the way she was handling things as well. Before she was diagnosed and treated something like this landed her in the hospital or led to self injury. The pdoc agreed that the decrease in
Seroquel was doing her well and decided to decrease by 25mgs/week over the next month to bring us down to 250mgs. (We use to be at 575mgs) We also were impressed with her new self awareness in terms of working with the pdoc in figuring out the meds and any necessary adjustments.
We got in the car and within minutes she was in tears
Apparently a song came on that reminded her of him....she applied new makeup and before it was even dry the tears came again!! It wasn't something I didn't expect, it was just a little sooner than I thought!!
We went shopping and she tried on a bathing suit talking about how now that she was single she had to look good for the guys!! We got back in the car and again the tears. I suggested we get a bite to eat to get her mind off of things....we agreed on Applebees and to split some apps since she wasn't very hungry. We sat down and more tears
We told the waiter that we lost our appetite and left. Went to the grocery store to get something she wanted....I ran into a friend and she came to me with tears rolling down her cheeks. Friend shared some breakup stories and she was soon laughing again.
We came home and she spoke with friends on the phone. She seems okay now and I KNOW that this is completely normal as she makes the adjustments. It feels so good to see her letting it all out rather than allowing it to stay in where there is no release. The way that I see it is that she is using healthy coping skills and that is HUGE compared to what we have seen in the past....really HUGE!!
Well tomorrow is another day and I pray that she continues to stay strong and realizes how much better it is without him. I am hoping that her friends keep on surrounding her so that she can continue to stand her ground on this.
Well it was an exhausting day for me and it is time to catch up with some much needed rest. Thanks for listening.
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