Well, I can understand your mixed feelings. They are absolutely appropriate to your situation. However I think most people are capable of being adequate or good parents, and I also truly believe you will feel differently about your child than you do other people's. I've never been a big fan of other people's children but I know I will enjoy my own, and I'll probably end up understanding other people's children better as a bonus!
Regarding telling your dad: I would approach him with a plan. I would say "Dad, here is the deal, and here is how I plan to handle it, financially and otherwise. I'm prepared to accept the responsibility, but I'm also scared at the idea of this and could really use some support from you." He'll be impressed that you are living up to your responsibilities and probably touched that you would come to him for help.
Hello! , It is perfectly normal for you to feel the way that you do. 
We all question our abilities to be a parent and we are all afraid but our parently instinct does kick in and you will be surprised of your fatherly abilities. I believe that once you see your baby and get involved in the pregnancy that you will feel very differently than you do now torwards your baby, just because you are not fond of others children it does not mean that you will feel that way torwards your child. Is there a health clinic in your area that your girlfriend can go to for her prenantal care they will see her for free through out her pregnancy or for a small fee each time if she works, is there goverment financial aid that she can go to for things such as food stamps and etc? Is there any type of financial support programs there for her to seek help? These are things you can look into as far as telling your dad, I would just tell him that he has a grandchild on the way and that you and her want to do the right thing by raising this child and any help or support from him would be much appreciated as you are going through a hard enough time trying to figure things out and you need him to understand. I agree with Tilly that he will be happy that you have come to him about this and that he will be proud that you are trying your best to take responseability for your actions and not running from them. I wish you the best of luck and Take Care
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