both girls and guys point of view would be nice...

flippincrazy14 · 07-30-2004, 02:45 PM

ok... so my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 9 1/2 months.. long time yes. or at least it is when ur 15. anyways... i like him just as much as i ever have... and i would never wanna break it off with him. ive never felt this way about anyone before and i really dont wanna lose it. however my problem is this... the boyfriend i had before him was a perfect boyfriend. i only broke up with him cuz there were no sparks. but he would call everyday in the summer to do something and we'd hang out constantly....he treated me so great!! and we were 14! anyways... there just wasnt any more feelings toward him than just friends and still isnt, at all. but now i hafta force myself not to expect that from other guys... cuz most guys dont treat their girlfriends like that. for example my boyfriend is a complete jock... i mean hes into just about every sport imaginable but his main ones are football and baseball. he spends a lot of his time at practice... and if not practice then hes workin out at the gym. hes a sports addict basically. we are complete opposites in just about every way but hey, opposites attract right? anyways he never calls me to do stuff... but if i call him to do something he acts like he wants to go so i think he just expects me to plan stuff which kinda sux...but thats life. and a lot of times he cant do stuff even tho he got his license early this summer. sometimes i get the feeling he could care less about me and whether or not we see each other.... its like all he cares about is sports and wether or not hes in shape and gaining weight. i hardly ever see him... and its really stressful!! cuz theres nobody else i would rather be with than him... he means the world to me... but hes just not a great boyfriend.. but when im with him hes perfect... hes all cuddly and cute... but he never does the random cute things that some guys will do for their girlfriends... maybe part of the problem is that he was one of my best friends for the first couple yrs i knew him, then we started goin out... anyways..... any advice would be great... even if it is just to tell me im worrying over nothing

eightball61 · 07-30-2004, 04:18 PM

I am afraid to say your relationship is normal at your age. You are a little more mature than he is and thats why you want to spend more time together. His main focus is practices. I am sure he does care about you but he is putting he trying to balance thing out from practice, lifting, girlfriend, family, and free time. He could call you a little more though.

flippincrazy14 · 07-30-2004, 04:28 PM

Thanks thats really all I needed to hear... that its normal for our age. I really wish I'd never gone out with my ex though, he was too perfect... lol

eightball61 · 07-30-2004, 04:41 PM

Don't get me wrong and you will see other couples that will spend more time with each other. At your age you all have a mond of your own and don't really realize the true meaning or denication to what an adult relationship is like. You have the senses of it but he doesn't. Please don't take my wording the wrong way because I was a teen a few years back and learned a lot since.

eddycraig · 07-30-2004, 06:01 PM

Obviously sports are very important to him as you stated. I think that you should try to take an interest in what he likes and try and get him to take an interest in what you like. Do you ever watch his games? Maybe go to the gym with him and run on a treadmill while he's doing the weights, then after, hang out together for awhile.