This is somewhat of a petty problem, but I guess Im just interested in some feedback as to why...
Two weekends ago, I went down to DC, where Im from originally, to party with my college girlfriends. We happened to run into an 'acquaintance' of my ex's when we were out. We chatted, he asked me how I was diong (he knows of my break-up) and I asked him how his girlfriend was, and he said they broke up a few months before beacuse she had cheated on him. To make a long (and very incriminating) story short, we really hit it off that night, got very drunk, and went a little too far...(I know, I know, stupid).
Now, considering he knows my ex and hangs out on the peripheral in my ex's group of friends, I woke up the next day knowing that this is pretty much #1 of WHAT NOT TO DO when you are dumped by your ex and I freaked out a little. So, he and I both swore ourselves to secrecy that the event would not get out- we both wanted to be respectful to our exes, etc.
However, we still continued to really hit it off even that morning when we hung out a little. He kept seeming really interested, saying I was phenomenal and he couldn't resist me and we should go to brunch, etc. And hang out when he comes up to the city. So when I got back to NYC, I emailed him just asking him of some of the fuzzy details of what had happened, and basically just to get one more laugh in over how much fun we had had. Well, he responded and actually still responded with some interest..we talked on the phone, and that week he sent me a few little messages via my IM (I was out so never got them in time to respond). He even said he was scared of what would happen between us when he came up to NY. However, he did seem really concerned about my ex 'kicking his a**' if he found out, and not wanting anyone to know, which was fine with me. Well, after that we talked 3 more times that week. He called me ever time in response to a short IM i would leave him. Every time before we got off, he would say- talk soon? or I really enjoyed our banter today, or something like that. Even on V Day I sent him an IM just saying Happy V Day (I never called him, I tried to remain distant since i didnt know what was going on), and he responded with Happy Val. Day, beautiful.
After that- nothing for a few days. No calls, no IMs, nothing. So I sent him a 'breezy' short email today just saying 'sorry that you are sick, heres what Im up to, call me if you get a chance'. I got back a pretty platonic sounding, yet sweet email that was long and responsive, but just didn't have the same tone as he communicated before.
So Im letting it die, its not like it was anything huge really anyway...Im just a little confused. Considering it is a delicate situation as it is, and we both just got out of rltsps and, although he is moving up here soon, still lives in DC, Im sure its for the best. I am just confused by his mixed messages. Im curious as to why he would initiate so much interest and sweetness and almost even 'awe of me' and then it disappears in a few days...? Was he trying to just be nice after our night of fun?
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