update on my situation

[digmusic]

I wrote recently asking if I should be with someone if it was obvious that they are less into me than I am into them...well, this guy has been kind of distant, I told him if he had something to say to me then just to say it to my face...I guessed right. He said "I love you as a friend but I could never fall in love with you or have you as my girlfriend because you don't have the qualities I look for in someone, you are too selfish, you are a 'companera de nadie' which in spanish means "nobody's companion." Wow...I appreciate honesty but that just hurt. The thing is he probably wouldn't have said anything if I hadn't brought it up, he probably would have just kept kissing me, because he has no one else to kiss right now (his ex-gf is still in Brazil who he is still in love with as he also told me last night.) He wants to "still be friends" but after everything he has said to me I just don't think I can handle it, and he was one of my best friends here. This makes me very sad indeed. I would appreciate any opinions or advice, I suppose I'm just venting but this does suck.

[US40126]

Wow that was harsh... I appreciate honesty in people but I don't think he had to say it like that...wow

[tnmomofive]

well your right that does suck you say he has been one of your best friends I think if you can put your deeper feelings for him aside you two could still remain good friends I mean what he said would of hurt my feelings prob too but not enough for me to never speak to him again you wanted honesty and you got it maybe just put some distance between the two of you so you can get over wanting to have more with him.Best friends are not that easy to find and one of the great things in a friend relationship is honesty even if it sometimes hurts to hear I have always just wanted the truth.On the other hand if you really feel like you cannot just be friends with this guy then your going to have cut it off at least for now.

I am not sure I helped any but I hope things work out best for you

[charlatans]

how can you be his friend after that?

[digmusic]

That's what I don't know charlatans, I genuinely appreciate his honesty but his words lately have just broken me down. His words lately are just too much for me to handle, too many uncomfortable truths. He's Brazilian and he said the United States "deserved 9/11" and always jokes about "stupid white men." He thinks he knows everything but the truth is he is a 21 year old little boy, no one where close to a man, and it pisses me off to be frank.