Friend is about to have affair with married man. How do I talk her out of it??

[Laylah]

A girl I know really well from my college years has set her sights on a married man. She's been making some noises about him on and off for a while. Apparently (according to her) he's as into her as she's into him, but he's been dragging his feet when it comes to getting intimate as he's struggling with issues of guilt etc.. Apparently he's never had an affair before.

I'm posting about this now because I've just gotten off the phone to her and she was going on about how they had lunch yesterday and how "lovely" it was and how sure she is she'll have him in bed soon (presumably when she has convinced him to overcome these guilt feelings, or ignore them, more like it). It's mad as I was only talking earlier on another thread about how some women get a thrill out of the very unavailability of men who are married or taken. It just pisses me off! I dont know this man so obviously haven’t a clue who his wife is. All I know about her is that she's been married for eight years and has a little boy of six, and God love the pair of them as far as I’m concerned.

People, please don’t lay into me about this. I'm not the one making this decision. I like the girl, but not what she's planning to do. She's a very head-strong person so I've a feeling I may be wasting my time, but any ideas on how to talk her out of it??

I know it's none of my business, but if I got some good ideas in the feedback to this thread that made me think just maybe I could manage to talk her out of it, I'd definitely give it a go, because as I said I get pissed off just thinking about this type of thing. Maybe I'm being naive, but I'd like to think a friend of a woman who was trying to screw my husband and the father of our child might have the decency in her to try to talk her friend out of it.

Yes, of course I’ve told her I don’t condone it and reminded her what it felt like to be cheated on (she’s experienced that, who hasn’t?) – NOT WORKING. I guess my friend's so full of lust she's beyond guilt. Anyone got anything else more original to hit her with???

[rosequartz]

I dunno....after reading your saga about your inappropriate sister, I'd like to suggest that you tell your friend to get together with your sister, go out and pick up some men who are available, and not married!
get these 2 hussies together and away from you!

[Laylah]

Originally Posted by rosequartz

I dunno....after reading your saga about your inappropriate sister, I'd like to suggest that you tell your friend to get together with your sister, go out and pick up some men who are available, and not married!
get these 2 hussies together and away from you!

LOL, the pair of them on the town together? No womans man would be safe!

[rosequartz]

yeah but you'd get them outta your hair, and their attention would be focused elsewhere. LOL

[Laylah]

It's a funny suggestion actually, cause they both have the same first name! I'll be watchin out for any woman with that name from here on out, lol!