Does this girl like me?? im so confused :(

rapidfire7 · 05-25-2007, 10:59 AM

Hi everyone, I havent posted anywhere for sooo long

Ive been outta the dating game for about a year as ive had some very traumatic circumstances in my life but thats another story..

Im posting about this girl who I met in my class at uni who I really really like but I am sooooo confused if she has any feelings for me or not. (This might be a long sorry). If you could listen to my story id really appeciate it

I met her in the first week of uni for the year in one of my subject tutorials, and the next week she asked me if i wanted to join her group with her friend (a guy) to do a major assignment, which i was more than happy to do. In the following weeks we were working together, sat next to eachother in class (sometimes), talked heaps to eachother about anything and everything etc. I just felt we got on so well it was amazing chemistry (well from my side atleast). I had her phone number (from group work) and I called her up when I missed a week for details of the class etc and she sounded happy i called and was sooo nice and we just chatted and got on so well. so far so good yeah?

Well yesterday was my final day of uni ever and so was hers. Our group had a class presentation to do in the afternoon and we met in the morning at uni and spent all day together working things out. I talked soo much to her again about all kinds of things (including the presentation :P) and It felt so good cause we seemed to be really connecting more than ever (I thought).

After the presentation (which went well) we both knew that was it! No more uni forever for each of us and obviously no more of us working together. As we went down the escalators for the last time (three of us) I was hoping in my head that we would atleast have somesort of meaningful conversation at the bottom, preferably I could have asked her if she wanted to go for a coffee or something which I wouldnt be afraid to do. But the whole way down she was just talking to another guy from our group (who i know has no feelings for her and has got a gf). When we reached the bottom the two of them just walked ahead of me without saying a word and down a side corridor. I had to almost yell 'See you later guys' and she just kept walking just as fast and mumbled 'goodbye' as if she were speaking to stranger.

This really upset me

. she knew she wasnt going to see me anymore and she couldnt even give me a proper goodbye if nothing else. It deeply hurt coz i have real feelings for her and I thought we had something for moment.
Now i dont know what to do

. All that time where I thought things were looking promising and then WHACK! I have her number but It just seems like it might be a lost cause now. Maybe she was just being friendly all that time and nothing more is all I can think of, but it seemed like more i thought. *Sigh*.

What do you guys think I should do? Forget it? Call her? or what? Im just a little fragile emotionally at the moment and getting rejected would sting like hell

Please let me know your opinions

Thanks so much!

Seraph · 05-25-2007, 03:50 PM

For the sake of your fragile state at the moment, I would only ring her if I had a non-romantic excuse. For example, a bit of a debrief about the presentation? I don't think you (for your own sake) want to leave it like this without knowing one way or another, then again you don't want to put it out there and get stomped. It is possible that it didn't hit her the way it did you that this was IT. Call and (for example) thank her for her contribution etc etc and see how it goes. If she is cool towards you, well you still have your pride, and you never know.....Cheers, Sera

jen52983 · 05-25-2007, 05:22 PM

Giving a friendly call is a good idea, I think. I mean, even if she was just being a friendly classmate, there's no reason you can't call to say hello, maybe discuss how you thought things went. If you're afraid you won't have too much to say, seeing as how this all just happened yesterday, maybe give yourself and her the weekend. Give her a call Monday evening... chit chat, ask her what her plans are now that uni is out and what not. If you feel like she's giving you the cold shoulder, then end it by just saying that you didn't get a chance to really say good bye, and that you enjoyed working with her and that you wish her the best. You could even start the conversation off like that if you want to.. and see where it goes from there. If she gives you a quick "Oh, thanks, you too.." then awkward silence, it's best too assume that she was just being a friendly classmate and has no other interest. If the conversation goes well, then suggest getting together sometime soon.

Definitely call her though.. you never know what might happen!

rapidfire7 · 05-26-2007, 10:59 AM

hey thanks for the replies.

I agree a call is a good idea but i just cant think of a good enough non romantic excuse to call for it to work. Would a text message be ok? I know its a cop out but the phone seems real hard at the moment. Do you think if I just sent her a text saying something like 'it was nice meeting and working with you and i wish you the best for the future' or something like that? and see what happens from there? or is that a bad idea?

Seraph · 05-26-2007, 11:44 AM

The only trouble with texting is that if she doesn't reply, you are no further forward. I think a call would be better. Just thank her for her work on the presentation and as the PP said say you didn't get to thank her or say goodbye ath the end of the class. That is just a friendly polite thing to do.