How come other people don't get it?

ChanceFL · 06-12-2007, 11:16 PM

I am sorry, but I have to post this because I am so annoyed right now. I don't want to bash my husband, but sometimes he is so infuriating! Earlier tonight we were watching tv and he was switching back and forth between two shows when he noticed some show astronomy show was on about asteroids. I do not like those shows (for obvious obsessive reasons) and I asked him to either turn it off or I would go in the other room. He did, but then turned it back on and before I could leave, the show starts talking about catastrophe and when it could happen and I started crying because of course it's all I can think about now.

So anyway, my husband tells me to be rational about it! He says to me, "your more likely to get hit by a car, but you don't obsess about that. Why can't you be reasonable?" I can't believe it! I tried to explain that those of us with OCD do not pick and choose our obsessions. They just happen. If I could choose then I would be able to get over this without spending thousands on therapy and putting objectionable medication in my body. But he doesn't get it.

So now I have a new obsession! Hurray! Just needed to vent!

seriousperson · 06-13-2007, 12:49 AM

Is it possible he does get it, but that he was just frustrated at the moment and doing a little venting himself?

ChanceFL · 06-13-2007, 01:54 AM

You're probably right, I am sure it is tiring for him to deal with me and my issues on a daily basis. But I know that he doesn't really understand-he can't possibly because he doesn't have OCD. That being said, I really feel that he could be a tad bit more supportive at times and not try to rationalize with me.

Doglover5 · 06-13-2007, 10:13 AM

I know that my boyfriend gets frustrated with me, so I try not to talk about my OCD around him too much. But he knows that it's really a hard thing to have to deal with, he just doesn't understand what it's like to constantly obsess. I asked him once if he ever had bad thoughts pop into his head and he just looked at me and said "no". So I know it's impossible to make him fully understand. The only thing I can ask of him is to be supportive, and he definitely has been. We are lucky that we have message boards like this one, for times when the people around us can't sympathize, at least we have someplace to go where we know people who do.