exhausted wife

[sbelle9]

I am the wife & caregiver of a stroke victim. I am so exhausted between work, taking care of him & worry that I just want a new life sometimes. I love him & would never leave him. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can release some of this madness called stress?

[Misty800]

Been there done that with my M-I-L caring for her 24/7. Looking back I now know what I should have done and not end up with ruined health myself.

I do not know who takes care of your husband while you are at work, but, you do need extra help with his care. A caregiver needs to take breaks in order to maintain their own sanity.

[supervt]

Hi SBelle9,
It has been some time since I've been here, but felt compelled to write. I realize that you may not have a lot of time considering what your responsibility load is right now, but there is help in your area that would give an opportunity to have some time for yourself, or to just go to the store without worry.

I am in a similar situation in taking care of my Mother who just turned 94 years old, and am in Florida, but Missouri should have some of the same types of programs setup, and here are some that may be helpful, or at least a direction for you to try:

http://www.dhss.mo.gov/HeartandStroke/AcuteStrokeSystem.pdf

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I know you may have tried the following, but I'm just trying to give you some possible ideas that can work for you: (a.) Church Members (b.) Veteran's organizations (c.) Family members and/or neighbors (d.) Stroke Support Victim Groups (e.) Contact his Social Worker or Home Health Case Manager

It is never easy caring for a loved one and trying to have some semblance of a normal life, but at some point you can find balance which will make a happier and better situation for both of you.

I will include you and your family in my prayers.

Sincerely,
~ Veronica O.