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Old 06-17-2009, 01:10 PM   #1
rlr06h
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Caregiver for both?

I just started a caregiver job in April in the desperate need of a job to support my family and to get my foot in the door of the whole healthcare job world. I make $8/hr which I accepted being my first time in this job. After 2 months, I realized the other caregiver was making $10/hr and doing much less with working fewer hours. She is paralyzed from her waist down and needs a lot of assistance but lately I have been feeling like she is starting to take advantage of my help. I cook 2 meals a day (not the heat up in microwave, actual cooking), get her in and out of her wheelchair, bathe her, get her dressed, do her husband's laundry (which he is fully capable of doing himself), and make sure her husband eats. She is so subservient to her husband and he is not even the one who needs help. I have tried to find things for us to do together or talk about but there is nothing. All she likes to do is **** and half the time I’m following specific picture taking instructions. Now I have no idea if that's what my job is, is to make sure they are both taken care of even though he is 100% fine. I can barely even pay for child care each week and have many times had to stay longer than usual or come in even extra early. I still only get 8/hr for working over 40 hours. I really feel as though I’m being taking advantage of. I’ve gotten chewed out several times because I haven’t done things exactly as to how he has wanted them. She has even chewed me out for not fixing his lunch according to her wishes. He is very OCD and I think it’s causing me to lose my sanity. I come home exhausted to where I have no energy for my 2 year old daughter. I was ever so excited to do this job because it’s what I’ve been wanting but I’m either finding that this is not the job for me, or these are unreasonable people.
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Old 07-03-2009, 11:01 PM   #2
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Re: Caregiver for both?

You may not be cut out to care for others. Many of the things you complain about are normal in situations like the one you are in.

What were your duties outlined in writing when you took the job?

Would you prefer to cook her meal and someone else cook her husband's meal? No, whoever cooks should prepare enough for the spouse too.

The wife has always done the laundry for both and think nothing about the caregiver doing the same, is the way it has always been done.

Most likely what is needed in this situation is a caregiver hired to take care of both and pay them accordingly.

Taking care of elderly ill patients requires boo-koodles of patience. Many have nothing else to do other than complain to the caregiver, be demanding, etc. They usually want the caregiver to do things the way they always have done them, forgetting that people do things differently and end up with same results. It is hard to be a puppet.

You have a choice of tolerating it or finding another job.

Always have the job duties outlined on paper at time of hiring so there will be no question as to what your duties are.
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