Anyone here have a mum who is an alcoholic?

karinasteenari · 11-12-2009, 04:09 AM

I moved out from my mum to my dads when I was 13 due to her alcoholisim. Lots of things have happened since then - I could write at least a 3 series autobiography on them. Cut a long story short i am hear to vent right now.

My dad had open heart surgery on tuesday and is struggling breathing wise and mentally wise, he is in the ICU. I am not sure how mum found out about dads operation but she turned up to the ICU today slightly drunk and I refused to let her see him (she did visit yesterday without my knowing, which I was quite angry about, and the nurses let her see him). (They divorced when I was four, I am 23 now) She called me everything under the sun - I am ungratefully, I am not looking after my dad, I am a ****, she is disgusted in me - I got the works! She made a huge scene in from of everyone in the confined waiting room and gave me a hard slap in the head/face (she was drunk so half missed) and huffed out ranting and raving as she went. I held it together for about 9 seconds before I dissolved in big hiccuping tears. I am so so so angry right now, and feel like life is very unfair.

I need simalar stories please, or advice..

FearUntilClear · 11-17-2009, 06:18 AM

Why do you refuse to let her see him... if she showed up there had to have been someone to make her show up.

Don't you think she should be able to see him?

I realize that there is the whole being drunk part, but she must care?

Idk...

I know even if my ex was in that shape and I was drunk or anything I'd still show up.

She must care about him, and you should try talking to her or finding out what's up.

Really.

Even if she just sees him a little.

Life is short.

Let her.

karinasteenari · 11-18-2009, 09:07 PM

My dad told me before surgery that he does not want her anywhere near him when he is in hospital.

I have spent years trying to help her - against dads will.

Instead of acting like my mum, she calls me names and hits me while my Dad is fighting for his life. There is no rational talking to my mum.

I think we will have to agree to disagree. Ta for your reply though.