Is my Ex-Girlfriend Bipolar?

primetimedm · 11-16-2009, 01:40 PM

Okay this really weird to ask, but I am looking for help. My girlfriend of a few months has dumped me for the second time in two weeks. Throughout the relationship, she showed possible signs of being bipolar....extreme mood swings, depression, loss of energy, headaches, bodyaches, uncontrollable crying, the need for a lot of sleep....more of the depressivs side than manic. She also has stated on a few occasions she needs time alone to think about things. The first time she dumped me I was drunk and being rude to her so that was the catalyst that stressed her and might have depressed her. She was also telling me that I was smothering her and that she needs to be a very independent person. She was pushing me away. She came back to me a few days later with all this love and I miss you's. The next few weeks she was proclaiming her love for me bascially...bragging to her friends about me, making long-term plans with me, saying I am amazing, calling me, etc. Then after a weekend getaway she proclaims that this relationship isn't working, she can't pretend to be happy anymore, she doesn't have feelings for me, and she isn't attracted to me anymore. The day before this breakup was a really good day for us too. We had a lot of fun on our weekend getaway. This last breakup was sudden and I am just confused. Is she bipolar? I heard an unconfirmed rumor that she was in therapy during high school a few years back and that they did diagnose her with bipolar.

Wise52 · 11-17-2009, 10:36 PM

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Originally Posted by primetimedm

Okay this really weird to ask, but I am looking for help. My girlfriend of a few months has dumped me for the second time in two weeks. Throughout the relationship, she showed possible signs of being bipolar....extreme mood swings, depression, loss of energy, headaches, bodyaches, uncontrollable crying, the need for a lot of sleep....more of the depressivs side than manic. She also has stated on a few occasions she needs time alone to think about things. The first time she dumped me I was drunk and being rude to her so that was the catalyst that stressed her and might have depressed her. She was also telling me that I was smothering her and that she needs to be a very independent person. She was pushing me away. She came back to me a few days later with all this love and I miss you's. The next few weeks she was proclaiming her love for me bascially...bragging to her friends about me, making long-term plans with me, saying I am amazing, calling me, etc. Then after a weekend getaway she proclaims that this relationship isn't working, she can't pretend to be happy anymore, she doesn't have feelings for me, and she isn't attracted to me anymore. The day before this breakup was a really good day for us too. We had a lot of fun on our weekend getaway. This last breakup was sudden and I am just confused. Is she bipolar? I heard an unconfirmed rumor that she was in therapy during high school a few years back and that they did diagnose her with bipolar.

Your girlfriend could be bipolar or have borderline personality disorder. Both conditions involve mood swings from very happy and feeling that you can do anything to depression where everything seems bleak. The later disorder is more extreme. With BPD there is little true feelings of love; it is more of a control issue. By pushing you away, then begging to have you back, she is controlling you and keeps you hanging on. Only a professional psychiatrist who is trained in mental illness can diagnose more accurately. You don't mention your ages, but I assume you are in your 20's, which is a common time for this to happen. Good luck! Lynn

primetimedm · 11-18-2009, 11:15 AM

Interesting...yea I am 24, and she is 20. Thanks for the reply! How do you suggest I go about bringing this up? She is very delicate and might freak out. I know I shouldn't attack her and really talk more about it being a concern...but it's weird because this is the 2nd time she dumped me and it really isn't my concern anymore.