Need some input from the girls =)

[roach]

Hey, i was just needing some input from mainly the girls here. I have a wife that turned evil on me for no apparrent reason. This girl really hates my guts. And is trying to screw me over bigtime.

Well i really wish she'd just fall off the face of the earth haha. so i bit my tongue and wrote her a letter hoping she'd feel sorry for me and take it easy on me. All of it is true exept the parts about me thinking she's a great girl, a great mother (HAHA she sucks),everything being my fault.

In all reality i hate this girl with a passion. haha One thing, this girl is a looser with no job and wants a free ride, i have a good job and make decent money but theres no way I can afford 800 a month in child support...Ive never said anything mean or bad to her and she doesnt know i hate her so much. She thinks i want to be friends with her...

Letter deleted!

[This message has been edited by roach (edited 05-26-2003).]

[Eeyore II]

Im sorry but oersonally I think it all makes you sound like a real jack a**. the amount of money to you might not sound so good but you were in fact married and had a child. you sound very insensitive and im wondering if the problem is you now her. you sound very young also. if you ever cared about her and had a baby with her why do you hate her soooo much and why must you feel the need to lie to her?

I dont know you or all the situation but from what I get out of it is you get what you deserve.
theres a fine price to pay when we have children involved.

[sweetescape02]

Unless she's blind, or just an idiot in general, she'll see right through that. I do not think it will do you a bit of good and if I were the unfortunate recipient of that letter of lies, it would make me hate you even more.

I've read some of your posts. I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time. What kind of proposal were you presented with? You don't absolutely have to agree to any proposal. The only thing that is absolute is a court order. You will be required to pay a certain percentage of your income for child support. It doesn't matter what you're "willing" to pay, it'll be what the judge orders you to pay and the judge goes by basic state guidelines.

As far as the insurance goes, if your daughter's mother has low income insurance for her through the state, you will be ordered to place her on your insurance if insurance is available to you through your job. That way the state will not have to provide services to your child that you should be providing as her parent.

Good luck.

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~ Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad. ~

[*SoccerMom*]

Hi Roach~
IMO, the funny thing about women is that they aren't just emotional beings with a "soft spot" but that they are capable of being able to read between the lines and tell when they are being lied to or manipulated. I personally know that some people are outstanding at lying or manipulation---regardless of gender!!
It is really a sad situation that you are in with your ex, your daughter and the loss of your dad. You just need to grow up and be responsible OR relinquish rights and move on. I feel so sad for your daughter who is totally innocent in this fight between you and your ex. I don't think children should be used as pawn or taken for granted. I don't want you to take this as a personal attack....I just feel you need to wake up because you have lost sight of what is important. Best of Luck to you. I hope everything will work out so your daughter has a happy life filled with people who love her.

**Wow, I was thinking that I would be the only one who felt this way, but while I was posting 2 others posted with a lot of the same feelings. I hope you haven't already sent that letter.............

[This message has been edited by *SoccerMom* (edited 05-25-2003).]

[roach]

Thanks
I guess that letter was dumb. I took it off =P
I have to deal with her on a simple level; something she'll understand.
I also know that if she knew i had a soft spot she'd drive the knife in deeper. So yea that letter was'nt a good idear.
Thanks you all made me change my mind!

-r