EXTREMELY disappointed re: IUD

Ravenna · 05-17-2003, 05:58 AM

For some reason my IUD began coming out a week ago. I could feel the plastic tip right at my cervix and it did hurt. I went to the doctor and she had to take it out. SO I wasted $350 worth of Copper T IUD and now have to figure out what to do instead. I'm extremely disappointed.

Now pretty much the only options I have involve hormones, which is exactly what I was trying my damnest to AVOID. So unless by some chance it was simply a mistake in positioning the IUD and I can try that again, my only non - hormone options are condoms and the like or sterilization.

God. How disappointing. Not the end of the world I guess.

Pandabaire2 · 05-17-2003, 09:14 AM

Ravenna, I feel for you.

I too have had horrible luck in the birth control department. We all know that condoms suck - I consistantly worry the entire month after using it, anxiously awaiting for my period to show. I can't use spermicide because I continually get bladder infections and/or yeast infections from them, I had a copper IUD put in after the birth of my son and ended up having my left ovary and fallopian tube taken out along with an ectopic pregnancy because of it.

I've tried Ortho Tricyclen, Loestrin, Mircette and now Yasmin birth control pills.(these are all the ones that are low dosage hormones). OTC, Loestrin and Mircette gave me horrible acne and I gained significant weight. I just stopped taking Yasmin after 4 months because of some strange side effects that included panic attacks, severe arm pain in my left arm, numbness in my left hand and fingers, and throbbing and numbness in my left foot and leg. Otherwise it was great - no bad acne and no weight gain.....of course, the constant tiredness and nausea that came on every 3rd week of each pack was no picnic.

I'm obviously not good at handling the hormones, so the Mirena IUD and the Depo shots and the patch are all out of the question. My only son is autistic so my chances are greater of having another child with autism. I've decided I don't want to have any more kids partly because of this - so I think my only options left are the Progestin only type mini-pills (which I may not be able to take because they can cause ectopics) or to get my one remaining tube tied. My husband offered to get snipped, but I really feel like he shouldn't. I feel that (God forbid) if something happened to me, or to our marriage, I would like him to find another woman and be able to start another family if that was his choice. (he would still like to have more kids, even though he realizes that the 2 of us togther could make another autistic child. He's agreed though that we shouldn't have any more.)

So as you can see....your certainly not alone in your predicament. I guess I just wasn't meant to enjoy sex in this life!!

short-stuff · 05-17-2003, 02:02 PM

I don't really know anything about it, but how about the "Ring" I think it's called. It is a ring that it inserted near the cervix and does have hormones, but it might be safer and have less side effects because it doesn't go through your system.

Ravenna · 05-17-2003, 04:29 PM

Yeah, I've thought about the NuvaRing, but that doesn't look like much fun either. I spoke with the doctor about it, and she said that the women who have come to her for one usually have a problem with the men feeling it during sex. So I could always take the ring out before sex, but what a pain in the ***!

With me, I have pretty much decided I don't want kids period. Not even for the lame reason of how painful the birth would be. I really don't think I would make a very good mother. I'd screw my kid up in a hundred different ways.I don't really have the best personality for motherhood. So I would seriously consider getting 'my tubes tied'. But then I think of how it would be when I'm old and dying and I had never made a family. I'd be gone without a legacy. I'd have no family to remember me. Nothing much to show for the 90 years I've been here unless I do something really amazing with my career. So that stops me.

I'll never take the pill for the same reason I wont take anti-depressants. I just don't like the idea of messing with my body that way.

Well Pandabaire, thanks for lettin me know I'm not alone. We'll just have to see what happens.

mlgable · 05-19-2003, 11:02 AM

Have you considered the vaginal contraceptive film or one of the foams or suppositories on the market? As for having kids or not don't let leaving a legacy be a reason to have a child. You should have children because you want a child and want to give it everything you have to offer. A child should not be thought of as a legacy but as part of you. Kids are not easy to raise and pose a wide variety of problems and you need to be there to meet every single one of those problems. Good Luck in your decision.